Why You Need to Tell Your Boss You're Engaged ASAP

Updated 01/26/15

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An engagement is something brides and grooms expect everybody to celebrate with them. It's a happy time and the enthusiasm bubbles over and spreads. But there's one person in each of your lives who might not be as excited about the news as everyone else — your boss. Not to say he or she isn't happy you've found the love of your life — happy people make productive employees, usually. But depending on what you do for a living, your boss may fear certain ramifications as a result of the engagement. After all, many employees get some wedding planning done during the day — even if they're just surfing Pinterest and Instagram or meeting with vendors during their lunch break.

So how do you share the good news at the office without worrying the person responsible for your paycheck? Here are four suggestions:

1. Make your boss the first person you tell at your job.

Do it right away, and be direct. If you're not planning to get married anytime in the next six months, say that right away. And reassure them you'll be thoughtful about your professional obligations when choosing the date.

2. Some job fields make scheduling vacation time harder than others. Accountants can't get married February through April without creating havoc in their professional lives. Congressional staff members get married when the House and Senate are in recess. Teachers tend to get married in the summertime. If you have one of these jobs, let your boss know that you won't be getting married during your busy time.

3. Don't slack or change your work habits.

If you usually take work home with you and are a punctual person, that can't change once you're engaged. Don't give your boss any reason to believe you might drop the ball.

4. When you do set your wedding date, talk to your boss about it before you formally announce it if there's any chance it could cause a conflict with something major at the job.

Telling him or her doesn't mean you'll have to change your wedding date, but it will give them an opportunity to tell you about something big and upcoming that you won't want to miss out on.

Owner of Weddings in Vieques, a destination-wedding planning company off the coast of Puerto Rico, Sandy Malone has helped countless couples plan their big day since 2007.

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