Why You Need to Tell Your Boss You're Engaged ASAP

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An engagement is something couples expect everybody to celebrate with them. It's a happy time, and your enthusiasm tends to bubble over and spread. But there's one person who might not be as excited about the news as everyone else: your boss. Not to say he or she isn't happy you've found the love of your life—happy people make productive employees, usually. But depending on what you do for a living, your boss may fear certain ramifications as a result of the engagement. After all, many employees get some wedding planning done during the day—even if they're just surfing Pinterest or Instagram, or meeting with vendors during their lunch break.

So how do you share the good news at the office without worrying the person responsible for your paycheck? Here are three suggestions.

Tell Your Boss First

Before sharing the news with all of your colleagues, make time to talk to your boss. Do it right away, and be direct. Let them know your general timeline, like if you're not planning to get married any time in the next six months. And reassure them you'll be thinking about your professional obligations when choosing the date and planning.

Talk Wedding Date

Tax accountants can't get married February through April without creating havoc in their professional lives. Congressional staff members tend to walk down the aisle when the House and Senate are in recess. Many teachers celebrate their nuptials in the summertime. If you have a job with a crazy-busy time of year, try to avoid a wedding date in those months. If there is no way around it and you must get married during that time, come up with a plan and talk to your boss about it to make your time away as easy as possible for everyone.

And once you do set a date, talk to your boss first before you announce it. Telling him or her doesn't mean you'll have to change your wedding date, but it will give them an opportunity to perhaps tell you about a big project in the works that you won't want to miss out on. It will also give them time to make plans as to what they'll do when you're out of the office for your wedding and honeymoon. Your coworkers want you to enjoy your special day, of course, but having advance notice of if and when they might have to cover for you is always a nice courtesy.

Don't Slack or Change Your Work Habits

As we mentioned above, employees tend to use their time at work to plan their wedding. It's inevitable that you may need to take a phone call or research a vendor during work hours, but try not to make a habit of it—and it should definitely not affect your work. Use your lunch or coffee break to do any wedding-related tasks, but when you're on the clock, focus on your job and responsibilities. Additionally, If you usually take work home and are always a punctual person, that can't change once you're engaged. Don't give your boss any reason to believe you might drop the ball.

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