The Ultimate Standing Sex Positions Guide for Couples

We're all just trying to pull it off

Updated 12/13/17


Standing sex always feels like a truly inspired idea until you go for it. It’s one of those it seemed like a good idea at the time kind of things. That being said, it’s wonder why we find ourselves trying standing sex. Sometimes you're in the heat of the moment, you tear each other’s clothes off and just go at it wherever you find yourselves.

The issues arise in the lack of flexibility, strength, and dexterity most of us have. We all think we’re strong enough to lift our partner (or light enough to be lifted) and then...we’re not. Let’s face it, it takes an Olympian to pull of orgasmic standing sex.

Don’t fret. We’ve hacked standing sex to make it easier for you! So, here's the ultimate standing sex positions guide to help you make the fantasy real instead of super awkward.

Get one leg up

Have your partner hold one of your legs up and enter you astride. This position lets you keep your balance during shallow penetration, and doesn’t force your partner to hold your entire weight (a daring feat for anyone, to be sure).

One of the greater challenges of standing sex is the pesky height difference that often comes into play. If you and your partner are the same height, props to you. Never let that person go. To make up for height difference, utilize any stead ledges you have in your house. A staircase can do the trick. Just be sure your back is against the wall. The last thing you need is to topple.

Bonus: Sex lying down on the stairs is hot so, that can be your next move. Let’s face it, standing sex is tiring no matter how to play it.

Half-seated V

Sit on the edge of your kitchen island (or a sturdy table) and have your partner stand in front of you. Place your ankles on his or her shoulders and have him or her enter you standing. You’ll have prime access to your clitoris and we all look amazing in this position.

This position has all the appeal of standing sex, without actually having to stand. It can be little tricky on the tail bone (hard surfaces, ouch), so try placing a pillow or folded dish towel under your butt for extra comfort.

Standing doggy style

Bend over and have your partner enter you from behind while standing. If you’re not able to touch your toes and balance on your hands (honestly, who is?) you can lean over the side of the bed or a grounded table.

This position allows for deep penetration and an opportunity for a reach around by your partner for some clitoral love. The best part? This position takes almost no effort on your part. Who doesn’t love a good lazy sex position?

Standing cunnilingus

Lean your back against the wall (or free stand, if you have the balance). Have your partner kneel in front of you and go down on you. If you can comfortably place a foot on your partner’s knee, go for it. This will allow for better access to your clitoris. Don’t be afraid to utilize a sex toy!

There is something primal and raw about this position that will have you coming in a matter of minutes...or at the very least, onto some hot, hot sex.

Shower ledge sex

Standing sex = two people taking advantage of every ledge they can. The shower is no different. Have your partner help you onto the ledge in the shower and enter you standing. Again, you have the illusion of standing sex without one person supporting the full weight of another.

If you don’t have a secure ledge in your shower or bathtub, skip this position. Showers are dangerous and slippery. Oh, and don’t forget the lube. The water from the shower is not, I repeat, not lube!

Standing lean-back

Have your partner stand with his or her back to the wall. Lean back into your partner, rather than having him or her lean into you. You can fully control the thrusting, which is helpful in standing sex positions as the penetration is often shallow (read: uncomfortable).

This position allows for easier range of motion and deeper penetration than your usual standing-entered from behind position. For better effect, try this position in a location where you can rest your hands on something, be it another wall or ledge. This way you can have more force and control.

Standing lotus

Sit on the edge of the couch or bed with your partner standing in front of you. Have him or her enter you, face to face. The standing lotus is like the classic lotus, only a little more dexterous.

This position is both easy and very intimate. It allows for deep, passionate kissing and a lot of clitoral stimulation.

If there is a height disparity, add some pillows under your butt for lift, or choose a higher surface.

Gigi Engle is a sex educator and writer living in Chicago. Follow her on Instagram and Twitter at @GigiEngle.

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