This is an example of a stainless steel dildo:
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It may look a bit intimidating, but this kinky-looking toy can change the way you experience sexual pleasure (or at least open you up to new experiences). Stainless steel is easy to clean, it’s heavy, and it can ignite nerve endings in your vagina, clitoris, or anus that you never knew existed. These toys will change the way you understand your body and open the door to a whole new world of sensation play.
Here is how to use a stainless steel dildo during sex.
Why stainless steel? What’s the appeal?
A stainless-steel dildo may not be the first thing you think of when you consider a sex toy. A vibrator seems much more common, right?
Stainless-steel dildos don’t vibrate. The aren’t meant to offer pulsations to the clitoris the way a vibrator would. It works differently. There is more to pleasure than vibration, ladies. Not every sex toy is a vibrator. Not everyone enjoys vibration. Some people want vibration and other forms of sensation, too.
A steel dildo is an excellent example of the vast ways a woman can experience pleasure. What makes a stainless-steel dildo so appealing is not only its kinky aesthetic, but its weight. You could do arm curls with one of these bad girls. They have some serious mass. When inserted in the vagina, the weight pulls down (or up, depending on whether you’re on your back or knees). This engages the entire clitoral network in different way than vibration does. The weight is heavier, thuddier, and unique.
We will get more into how to use it for sex acts below!
Stainless steel is easier to clean than a toy with a motor (a vibrator, for instance). Instead of washing it with soap and water, you can throw these toys in a boiling pot of water or on the top rack of the dishwasher. Cleaning might not be the sexiest thing in the world, but we’re not going to complain about easy sterilization.
These dildos also have widely varying uses. You can use stainless steel in the vagina, run it all over the body for kinky foreplay, and even insert it into the opening of the anus (though be sure you’re holding one end so it doesn’t disappear up the rectum). There are really no limits to how this toy can be used.
Vaginal insertion of a stainless-steel dildo
There are two main ways you can use a stainless-steel dildo in the vagina: To slide it in and out, or to leave it in place while you do other sex things.
Be sure to lube the toy up heavily. We suggest a silicone-based lube for extra slip. Metal used roughly on the vulva can cause pain if it isn’t done with care. Lube acts as a barrier between toy and skin. Check out our complete guide to lube for more information.
Move the dildo in and out of the vaginal canal. You can always have your partner use the dildo on you as well. Be gentle. You do not want to forcefully move the dildo in and out at the same speed you might see during intercourse. You don’t want to hurt yourself! Communicate with your partner. Let them know how it feels. If you want them to move more rapidly, let them know. If you’re feeling discomfort, slow down.
You can also use the dildo to hook up towards the G-spot. Tilt the wand towards the belly button. Move it around the G-spot area. The weight of the toy can help engage the entire apex of the clitoris. Again, communicate. Breathe into your body. This sensation will feel different than what you’re used to, but different doesn’t mean bad!
Stainless steel & oral sex
A stainless-steel dildo will take oral sex from your regular cunnilingus game to the Olympics. Trust us, this is going to rock your world. Lie on your back and prepare for the best orgasm ever.
Have your partner lube up the dildo. Insert it into the vaginal canal, slowly.
Let them know how it feels. It you want more, have them push it in further. It can be very sensual to watch your partner push something inside you. Lean into that passion and everything your body is telling you.
Then, you just leave it there!
Have your partner go down on you while the dildo sits inside the vaginal canal. The weight of the dildo will feel like your vagina and pelvis are being pulled or weighted down. This ignites the clitoral network in an unusual way.
This stimulation combined with your partner’s tongue on the clitoral glans will shoot you into orgasmic outer space. Be patient. Remember, this is a new sensation. It may take some getting used to.
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The anus and stainless steel
If you’re interested in trying a little butt play, a stainless steel dildo can be true treat. We’re not talking about full thrusting with a rigid, metal wand. We’re simply referring to the anal opening. This is a nerve rich area. The cool metal and weight of the steel can offer all kinds of erotic pleasure.
Be sure to hold onto the handle tightly. Gently run the dildo around the anal opening. Don’t forget the lube!
If you feel comfortable, you can insert it into the first two inches of the anal opening. The anus is a universal sex organ. We call have one. There’s no reason we cannot explore!
Pro tip: If you want to try temperature play, stick your stainless steel dildo in the freezer. Run it over your partner’s inner thighs and nipples to give them a cool shock. Once it’s warmed up, you can proceed with any kind of sex your heart desires.