10 Something Borrowed Ideas for the Modern Bride

Vintage accessory on bridal bouquet

Julia Wade

You've heard the saying a billion times before—something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue. But did you know that including something borrowed on your big day is supposed to bring you a lifetime of marital bliss? It's even better if that item is from someone special (like mom or grandma) with a rock-solid marriage. The old superstition is founded in the belief that borrowing something from a happily married woman to incorporate into your wedding day will hopefully transfer some of the good luck that she had in her marriage onto yours. These days, however, the tradition has taken on a far more sentimental role in honoring someone that has had a profound presence in your life on your big day.

Some of the more traditional ideas to check that something borrowed bullet point off of your to-do list include borrowing your mother’s veil, a pair of shoes, a clutch, or you or your partner carrying a grandparent’s handkerchief. You may even consider wearing your mother's or grandmother's wedding dress.

But if you’re looking to add something more out-of-the-box, while still following this age-old adage, there are certainly plenty of options for the modern bride. And that something borrowed definitely doesn't have to be a physical item. Overall, it's all about finding something meaningful for you to incorporate into your wedding day.

Read on for 10 ideas to help create your own happily ever after.

1. Your First Dance Song

Cue the tears of joy! Select the first dance song that your parents danced to as your own and surprise them with it. "It will surely bring a tear to their eyes as they recall the wonderful feelings they had when they united as husband and wife," says Florida-based wedding planner Aviva Samuels of Kiss The Planner. Plus, it'll be special to you and your spouse, too.

2. A Recipe

There are so many options for menus when it comes to your wedding, but adding in a classic touch may be a fun way to go. Borrow the recipe for a signature cocktail or an appetizer from your favorite restaurant. Or, if you have a favorite dessert your grandmother always made? Borrow the recipe to be incorporated into your own cake or other wedding desserts. 

3. Wedding Decorations

Save money and set the scene at your venue with something sentimental and borrowed that fits in with your theme, of course. For example, DC-based wedding and event planner Stephanie Aspinwall of Pretty Entertaining had one couple that borrowed the groom's dad's baseball card collection to use as décor at their reception. Vintage vases, borrowed books, and art are just a few other chic ideas.

4. Hair Accessories

Borrow from your besties. Think headpieces, hair clips, and yes, even tiaras. Aspinwall shares a sweet story about a group of friends who all married within a few years of each other and were bridesmaids in each other's weddings. "The first bride purchased a tiara for her wedding, then each of the other friends borrowed it for their weddings," she says.

5. Your Vows

Don't worry; we're not suggesting you full-on copy another couple's vows. However, if someone near and dear to your heart penned their own, do consider stealing a line or two that you especially liked (with their blessing, of course) "Feel free to borrow lines from your favorite authors, songwriters, and poets as well," says Samuels.

6. Wear Timeless Jewelry

We know, this certainly sounds like one of the most traditional options to check off that something borrowed box, but there are ways to make it feel a bit more modern. Don't just go with any old piece of jewelry. We love the idea of asking mom or grandma for something they either wore on their own wedding day, or something that your parents or grandparents were given from their other half as a gift. Wearing these little baubles can hold so much meaning.

Consider incorporating the same idea for your partner by borrowing a meaningful piece such as cufflinks or a pin from a special family member. 

7. Table Settings

Decked out tablescapes are definitely in, and there are so many components that can be added to a tablescape to add in personality. Check with family members or friends to see if they might have anything to add to the table, whether it’s the most beautiful cloth napkins, trinkets, or even your grandmother’s stunning silver or china. 

8. Bouquet Bling

Time to hit up grandma's treasure chest of jewelry. If you don't want to wear a family member's jewelry, why not incorporate it in another way? Add a pretty borrowed brooch to the back of your bouquet or delicately wrap a classic string of pearls around the bottom to decorate it, suggests Brittany Lo, founder of Beautini.

Incorporating a sentimental tie or ribbon may be an option to dress up your bouquet as well. Check with your florist on what options they've seen to add meaning to your bouquet.

9. Your Getaway Vehicle

Planning a grand send-off? Once the fireworks or sparklers are lit, or the confetti has been thrown, you’ll want to get away in style. Borrowing a beautiful vintage car or other decked out ride can be the perfect way to add something borrowed to your big day. 

10. Let Someone Else Decide

Love the element of surprise? What about asking a dear friend or family member to surprise you with your borrowed item? As long as you’re a ‘go with the flow’ type of person, this won’t add any additional planning to your list. And it gives someone special in your life the opportunity to add another meaningful piece to your big day. 

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