5 Ways to Use Social Media at Your Wedding That Don't Feel Intrusive

Don't let overposting take away from your big day

Updated 04/19/17

Amina Touray

If you are all about keeping your wedding intimate and special for the people in the room, the overuse of social media may make it feel like your guests are completely disengaged. With constant Snapping and people posting on their Insta stories, it's easy to feel like there is a phone in your face at all times on your wedding day.

Feel like you want people to unplug, but still want to keep your day current? Here are six nonintrusive ways to use social media at your wedding.

1. Use Facebook Live
If some of your closest family and friends aren't able to make it, using Facebook Live is a great way to make them feel like they are there. Assign one person to stream parts of your wedding live. (Decide beforehand which parts of the day you want broadcast.) Since Facebook Live can be recorded on a phone, it won't feel intrusive if just one person takes the reins on that and makes sure the best parts of your wedding are captured for those who aren't there.

2. Have a Personal Hashtag
OK, OK, we know this one isn't breaking any molds. Having a wedding hashtag is de rigueur for a reason: It's the perfect way to gather all of those wedding moments you weren't able to capture yourself.

3. Hire a Social-Media Team
If you want your wedding's social media to feel clean and strategized, leave it up to a professional. You can hire a social-media team to come to your wedding and post photos on your account for you. Don't forget to ask guests to unplug (more on that below!) beforehand so they can focus on enjoying themselves instead of capturing every moment of the day.

4. Keep Your Wedding Social-Media Free
To be 100 percent sure that Snapchat and Instagram won't take over your wedding, enforce a social-media ban for your guests. It may seem unrealistic or even a bit rude, but it's the only way to guarantee your guests won't be all up on social media rather than at your wedding.

5. Give People an Opportunity
Before your wedding starts, have your officiant ask guests to keep their phones off and away during the ceremony. Plan for one moment in the ceremony where people can pull their phones out and capture a moment for social media before they put they put them away again. That way, people can have their one shot and then be done trying to capture and post photos during the most intimate part of your wedding day.

Jen Glantz is the founder of Bridesmaid for Hire and the author of the new book Always a Bridesmaid (for Hire). She frequently wears old bridesmaids' dresses to the grocery store and on first dates.

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