Here's How to Announce Your Engagement on Social Media the Right Way

Before you start that Instagram story, read this first

Updated 07/14/17

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One minute, you’re having a totally regular day, and the next, your partner is down on one knee and asking you to spend the rest of your lives together! Getting engaged is a major milestone, and it’s news that you’ll want to share ASAP. But before you start that Instagram story, take a peek at these six tips for sharing this moment with the world.

Soak It In

Before you even reach for your phone, take some time for you and your fiancé (!!!) to celebrate. Laugh, cry, hug, kiss, and pop some champagne. This is a memory you’ll cherish for a lifetime, so really make the most of it. Heck, wait a few days before you put up that post if you want to! You only get engaged once—and your followers can wait.

Go Old-School

Ready to spread the news? Start with your parents, siblings, and closest relatives and friends. They’re the VIPs, so make sure they know you said yes before your social network does. Pick up the phone and make a call—or, better yet, go see them in person if you can!—to share the good news. Don’t forget to let them know who you have (and haven’t) already spoken with so that the surprise isn’t spoiled when Mom sends out an overeager group text to your siblings.

Write a Post That’s Short and Sweet

When you decide you’re ready to let the Facebook world know that you’re engaged, keep it simple. If someone was around to snap a photo of the big moment, opt for the action shot, or ask a friend to take your first photo as fiancés for you to share—with your left hand prominently placed, of course! A line or two about getting to marry your best friend is just the thing to pair with your pic, and you’ll have plenty of time for #ringselfies later.

Keep the Details to Yourselves

You’ll probably start getting questions about your wedding immediately (sorry!), but don’t feel pressured to share the answers publicly. Let your VIPs know if you have a date in mind offline instead of publishing your date and venue to the Web. The same goes for the specifics of your ring. You may feel comfortable sharing the carat weight with your BFF if she asks, but that info doesn’t belong on social media—and could make your partner or your friends uncomfortable.

Remember to Say “Thank You”

Prepare yourselves for a deluge of well wishes from close friends and distant acquaintances alike. That’s half the fun! Just remember to be gracious and set aside a little bit of time to read through everyone’s messages and thank them for their love and support.

Or Keep It to Yourselves

Not a social-media maven? Don’t worry! If you and your partner prefer a film camera to Instagram and a phone call to Facebook, there’s no reason to reactivate your account just to spread the word. Instead, make a few extra phone calls to get the news out, or plan an impromptu engagement party to tell your squad in person. And of course, you can always turn to snail mail and send out printed engagement announcements.

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