Planning the seating arrangements for your reception can be one of the most stress-inducing, hair-pulling, and argument-inciting tasks to check off your to-do list. We get it. Taking into account who is on what side of the family, what to do with an uneven amount of tables, people that don’t know one another, and worse—people that don’t get along—your head may be spinning. One group that should also be given consideration: your single guests.
Whether they’re single and ready to mingle, or completely uninterested, a singles table might seem like great opportunity or a terrible idea depending on your group. Here’s our expert advice.
When It’s A Nay
Most of the time, guests prefer, and have more fun at, wedding receptions where they’re seated among friends, family, and acquaintances. No wedding guest, or anyone for that matter, should ever feel singled out, ostracized, or seemingly punished for not having a significant other tag along with them to your event. ESPECIALLY if you’ve decided to enforce the “no ring, no bring” rule. This rings especially true for newly single guests who are nursing a heartbreak or embracing a new relationship status. Be sure to consider these factors when making your seating arrangements. No matter how many details are swirling in your mind as you wedding plan, this is important.
If you spend any time questioning if you should or shouldn’t seat all singles together, than chances are you should go with your instincts and avoid it by having happily integrated tables throughout the ceremony space.
When It’s A Yay
Singles tables aren’t just an unfortunate seating arrangement straight out of The Heartbreak Kid or table 9 in The Wedding Singer. While they seem to have become a thing of the past a few decades ago, they’re not unheard of today.
While single guests would generally prefer to sit among friends and family they are comfortable with, a designated “singles table” does have the opportunity to be a not-so-terrible idea, but only when it’s carefully curated. Unless you’ve been explicitly asked, or run the idea by your friends, you probably don’t want to play matchmaker or introduce people on blind dates. However, if the “singles” know one another, are friendly, have lots of common interests, and maybe even know ahead of time they will sitting all together, it can be a lot less awkward. A table of dateless guests can also be viewed as a place where your guests won’t feel left out for not being a part of a couple, but again, only if it’s done the right way.