You’re now a vibrator connoisseur and perfectly comfortable bringing sex toys into the bedroom, whether for masturbation or sexy time with your partner. So, what’s next in the wide world of intimate aids to help you have the best married sex of your life?
Brides asked Carlyle Jansen, author of Sex Yourself and founder of Toronto sex toy store Good for Her, for recommendations about some toys that can be used on your own or with a partner. Here are her top picks for what to try when you’re ready for some next level sex toys.
Njoy Pure Wand
Jansen says this 7.5-inch steel wand is a couples toy that’s “often overlooked” and that it’s great for both G-spot play and the P-spot, aka the prostate. “Many women discover ejaculation with this toy,” explained Jansen, while for guys it can “give amazing prostate orgasms.” Other bonuses? It can be warmed up or cooled down for different types of sensation, is “virtually indestructible and will last a lifetime” and is “great for those who don’t like vibration.”
Jansen calls this a “fabulous starter butt toy” because “it can be used like a plug and left in place while giving and/or receiving oral sex, during intercourse, or even while doing the dishes.” Imagine that! It’s even got room for a bullet vibrator, and “when used with a remote control bullet, you can wear it out and the partner can turn it on and off.” Another benefit? This toy doubles as short anal beads. “What makes them great compared to regular anal beads, which are floppy, is that these are firm.“
A Sex Blanket
Jansen recommends several waterproof sex blankets, including the Liberator Throe, No More Wet Spot, and Dam Blanket, for those times when you want to go all out and not worry about making a mess. While not a sex toy per se, they are a perfect addition to playing with your favorite toys. Jansen says these are especially useful “when one or both partners are copious ejaculators so that you don't have to sleep in the wet spot.” They can also protect your sheets from being stained by oils, lubes, food, body paint, or anything else, plus they’re easy to wash and can be used for outdoor sex or just a naughty picnic.
Two recommendations of my own:
Sex pillows, such as those made by Liberator Shapes, can help you access sex positions that might be otherwise uncomfortable or impossible. You can use them to help you do it doggy style, or to ease neck or back strain.
This handy little tool is a small metal device with a pinwheel on the end that you can run along your partner’s skin. Use it lightly and it will simply leave them tingling slightly; add more pressure for those who like a little pain mixed in with their sexual pleasure.
Whether or not the above toys appeal to you, you can always browse online or in your local sex shop with your partner to discover new items that might amp up your love life. Jansen has some advice about how to get the most out of your sex toy shopping experience. “Try to get something that is versatile so you can play with it in multiple ways,” she said. “Explore different parts of both of your bodies with the toy, even if it is designed for a specific area.”
She also encourages you to get creative: “If you already have toys, make a list of things you like and dislike about them and use that list to help you pick out something that has all the benefits and overcomes the shortcomings.” She also strongly recommends using toys that are made with body-safe materials like glass, silicone, steel, and wood.