6 Sex Positions That Increase Intimacy and Romance

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Updated 05/14/18

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You’ve been married for a while now and that is awesome. We are happy for you, queen! But, let’s get real. Has the sex gotten a little...routine? Not robotic but, like...yeah, robotic?

Don’t get us wrong here, maintenance sex is an important part of relationships. Having a regular romp on the G-cal is a good thing. It keeps you close and connected. That being said, where did the romance go in the bedroom? Where have you gone, candles and sexy massages and Marvin Gaye?!

Looking for some sex positions that can up that intimacy factor? We’ve got you.

Try these 6 romantic sex positions to get that spark going like hot, hot heat. If sex positions were romantic gestures, these would be the grandest of the grand. Pop that bottle of red and get to it.

The Burrito

Now, we all know the spoon is BAE, but it tends to be our go-to sex position when we’re feeling lazy, not romantic. So, what’s a gal to do? Get closer, baby! Get as close to your partner as possible, backing into their body, slowly. Have him or her wrap their arms around tightly. This is a great position for intimacy.

To make it extra burrito-y, pull a blanket over the two of you. It can get a bit sweaty, but isn’t it fun to get a little hot?

Flat doggy-style

Doggy style is sexy AF, we’re not going to lie, but it does lack, um, romance. To get all that glorious, deep penetration without all the dirty, raunchiness (though that IS fun), try the position pancaked.

Lie flat on your stomach and have your partner enter you from behind, lying flat against you. This gives you that physical contact you crave, and your partner the ability to kiss (or nibble) your shoulders and the back of your neck. Hello, romance!

Rocking Lotus

The Lotus is highly praised as one of the most intimate sex positions that exists on this, the planet earth. It’s been a favorite for thousands of years, making its debut in the Kama Sutra and Tantric sex. You know it’s legit.

The problem with Lotus is that we tend to bounce up and down, rather than fully embracing the position. Instead of moving up and down on your partner’s penis or dildo, rock back and forth. This will create more closeness and skin-to-skin contact.

The Lady-Snake

Cowgirl makes you tired. It just does. The Lady-Snake is like cowgirl, only romantic and easy!

Have your partner lie flat on his or her back. Mount them in whichever way is most comfortable for you. Move your legs back so that you’re lying flat against your partner’s body. Wrap your arms around their neck so they can comfortable rest their rest against your arms. Rock back and forth for optimal intimacy and clitoral stimulation.

This is a challenging position for penetration so, if it doesn’t work for you, that’s OK!

Rising Goddess

This twist on missionary will take all the robotics out of your sex life and reintroduce that intimacy. Take one or two pillows and place them under your bum. Have your partner enter you in missionary, resting his or her elbows on either side of your shoulders. Take your knees and bring them right along your partner’s sides.

Your hips are lifted and your head tilted back like the goddess queen you are. You’ll feel a little like a sexy spider. It’s hot.

This will not only give you plenty of space for passionate kissing, but will offer an opportunity to grind your clitoris against your partner’s pubic bone. Since so many women need clitoral stimulation in order to experience an orgasm, this is a fabulous position to get there.

Oral sex. Oral. Sex

If you’re trying to up the romance-factor in your relationship, give more head. Never stop giving head. This should actually be in our wedding vows (ok, well maybe our private wedding vows...). Oral sex goes both ways. Going down on someone you love and receiving oral sex from someone you love is intimacy incarnate.

OK, now listen. Getting some oral sex is probably one of the most romantic things that a person can do for another person. There just isn’t any room to argue with this. So, get on board.

To make it extra romantic, speak up. Tell your partner how hot they are and how good what they’re doing makes you feel. Rub his or her shoulders and run your nails through their hair. It will change the whole game.

Gigi Engle is a sex educator and writer living in Chicago. Follow her on Instagram and Twitter at @GigiEngle.

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