5 Sex Positions for When You're Truly Comfortable With Your Partner

Intimacy makes for all kinds of adventures

Updated 11/30/18
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Some sex positions for better for one-night stands or short-term relationships. Other sex positions are awesome for spicing things up with your partner. But what about the sex positions that feel truly vulnerable and even a bit scary at times?

Sometimes you need to embrace sex positions that are only great when you’re truly comfortable with your partner and love and trust them enough to try some out-of-the-box things in bed.

Whatever your preferences, being with someone you’re truly comfortable with is pretty darn hot. Intimacy for the win! Try new things and live it up.

Here are 5 of our favorite sex positions for when you’re incredibly, undeniably, totally unselfconscious, and happy with your partner.

1. The Chair Sit

Sit on a chair ad have your partner get on their knees for oral sex. Definitely put a pillow on the ground. No one needs bruised knees.

Oral sex can be very intimate and having your partner in such a classically submissive position takes trust from both of you. It’s great to receive oral pleasure and have a power exchange at the same time.

You can add in your favorite internal vibrator for extra stimulation of the vagina, G-spot, and cervical area. We love the Esca from OhMiBod. Take it up a notch with a stainless steel dildo. Hey, we did say sex positions for when you’re super comfortable with someone!

2. Flat Doggy Style

Doggy style is super hot and kind of raunchy in the best way. The issue? It can be a position with a lot of loaded feelings. Many women (and men) don’t like being taken from behind unless it’s with someone they truly trust.

When you’re super comfortable with your partner, you not only can enjoy doggy style, but take it up a notch. Instead of being on all-fours, lie flat on your stomach. This gives you even deeper penetration. Your partner’s weight on top of you can up the pleasure and give you the illusion of being trapped, which can be very sexy.

To amplify the position further, grab your favorite wand vibrator for double-dipped ride. You can add a pillow under your hips if you’re prone to back pain. Want to up the kink factor? Have your partner (gently) place a hand around your throat during sex.

3. Mutual masturbation

Masturbation never stops being important or hot in a relationship. When you’ve been together for a long time, are comfortable enough to say when you’re too tired for sex, and just want to touch yourselves next to each other, that’s romantic. Grab your vibrator and have your partner lie next to you. Position yourselves so you can watch each other.

Don’t be afraid to talk dirty or watch some porn together. If you want to watch porn, choose a video that you both like. Mutual masturbation keeps the intimacy alive and allows you to keep your close connection, without the full on intercourse.

4. Over the shoulder G-spot holder

Ever thought about giving up total control of your body and just having your partner use you like a play thing? Well, we think everyone has probably thought about this at some point. Enter: The Over The Shoulder G-Spot Holder.

Lie on your back and have your partner kneel in front of you, straight up. Place your ankles and then knees over his or her shoulders. It shouldn’t be difficult to pick you up to trust if you use your legs for balance. You want to be legitimately balancing on your shoulder blades like you’re in yoga. This position allows for some of the deepest penetration you’ll ever have.

Just something to keep in mind: This position is not for anyone with back problems or flexibility issues. It’s pretty advanced. But in a fun way!

5. Classic spoon

You cannot go wrong with a spoon, but sometimes we don’t want to do it because we’re afraid of being boring or too vanilla. There is so much pressure to keep sex “wild” and “exciting,” but you don’t need all the bells and whistles every time. When you’re really with someone you love and trust, spooning can be absolutely delightful.

Have your partner spoon you from behind and enter you. Relax with one arm behind your head for support. You can also turn your head for occasional sexy kisses.

Grab your favorite wand vibrator and slip it between your legs for some of that sweet, sweet clitoral action. This position is very intimate and hot when you lean into it and enjoy yourself.

Gigi Engle is a certified sex coach, educator, and writer living in Chicago. Follow her on Instagram and Twitter at @GigiEngle.

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