7 Sex Moves to Up the Ante on Your Wedding Night

If you can't get weird with your partner, who can you get weird with?

Updated 01/08/18

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Who says your wedding night can't be a night of sexual adventure? You're riding on endorphins; it's a great opportunity to try some new and exciting things (or at least things you know will deliver orgasms)...as long as you take a few small precautions!

It doesn't matter if you're sticking to your usual moves or looking to get down with some BDSM, there are small things you can do to up the ante on your sexy wedding night—aka sex moves you can try to ensure the best sex possible.

Here are some tips to get you from your reception to your most intense orgasms.

1. Take it easy with the booze.

Having champagne on your wedding day is totally expected, but if you're planning to get it on later (and get off), you'd be better off sticking to one or two drinks.

"It's really easy to have a glass of champagne or six during the course of a six-hour wedding," says relationship expert April Masini, but too much alcohol will do more than give you a buzz; it can inhibit your ability to have good sex. "At worst, one or both of you will have quickly fallen asleep because of the fatigue induced by drinking too much," Masini warns.

Alcohol can desensitize your clitoris and cause a rift between your desire to have sex and your ability to get super turned on, physically. "If you make a game plan to limit your alcohol intake, you'll have a better chance of having sex," Masini says.

2. Buy some fun accessories.

Have you MOH take care of getting the honeymoon suite ready with a few trinkets. Your wedding night doesn't have to be some vanilla sex experience if you're looking to be adventurous.

When you've been entrenched in the traditional all day long (let's face it, weddings are pretty predicable), your wedding night might be a good opportunity to try something out of the ordinary. We recommend keeping it simple. Get some Velcro handcuffs, a silk blindfold, and a couple's vibrator. Getting a little kinky after a day spent with your relatives might be just the ticket.

3. Wait for the sunrise if you're too tired.

There's nothing wrong with skipping wedding night sex if you're too tired. There will be plenty of other opportunities. Instead of feeling guilty, get down and dirty when the sun comes up.

"Exhaustion is part of every wedding night," says Masini. "The planning was epic and the wedding was long and wonderful, but you're not machines. You're human. And you're tired. Go to sleep married, wake up and have morning sex to celebrate the union. Being creative with traditions will serve you well over the course of your marriage."

Have a little playtime, order some French toast from room service, and then do it again!

4. Wear lingerie that makes YOU feel sexy.

Pick some wedding night lingerie that turns you on. Instead of trusting your bridesmaids to grab you some cheesy crotchless panties and a teddy, go and pick something that makes you feel really good about yourself.

If you have an outfit waiting for you that you know will make you look and feel amazing, you'll be itching to get back to the room to get it on. Be sure to send a foreplay photo to your fiancé the morning before the ceremony. It will give him or her something to think about during the wedding craziness.

5. Whisper something dirty in your partner's ear.

Speaking of giving your partner something to think about, take any opportunity to can to whisper dirty things to your partner. Lean in during your couple's photoshoot or kiss your partner sweetly during the reception and then tell them, "I'm going to do very bad things to you when we're alone."

It's a secret that only you and your partner get to share. You're going to be smiling, taking photos, and looking like a blissful wedded couple all day long. It's pretty sexy to add in such a raunchy dichotomy.

6. Join the Mile High Club.

If you're going on a destination honeymoon, it's a great opportunity to join the Mile High Club. Trying something adventurous and kinky is an excellent way to kick off the rest of your lives together. We all know the last thing you want to do after becoming forever wedded is wait to have mind-blowing sex.

7. Don't forget the lube.

If you remember one thing on your wedding night, remember the lube. Lube makes everything better. After a night of cocktails, you may have trouble getting as wet as you'd like. Never go anywhere without lube.

When it comes to lube, the more the better. Use it always. We love Sustain Natural, as it's free of petrochemicals and glycerine.

Gigi Engle is a sex educator and writer living in Chicago. Follow her on Instagram and Twitter at @GigiEngle.

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