Many brides dream of their wedding becoming the talk of the town. But, what happens if you hear that your wedding is, in fact, being talked about for all the wrong reasons? While you can’t exactly control what other people say, you can control how you respond. Here’s our best advice.
Consider the Source
Big life events are often talked about; it’s human nature. So, if you get wind that your wedding is being discussed, it doesn’t automatically mean it’s a bad thing. The first thing you need to do is consider the source. Who you are hearing it from?
If a close friend or family member is telling you something they heard directly and it’s coming from a place of concern, then it is important to consider addressing it, depending on what’s being said.
If it's verifiable that someone is spreading potentially harmful rumors such as reputation-crushing comments or jealousy-fueled lies, it should probably be dealt with directly. If you’re certain of the source and feel comfortable doing so, a polite but steadfast inquiry into what they are saying and why they are saying it is certainly warranted. Kindly request that whatever is motivating them to speak negatively about you and/or your big day be put aside, reminding them that it has nothing to do with them, and that their approval and opinions are best kept to themselves. Whatever you do, try your best to not bring others into it, or to blow it out of proportion. (Tensions can run high when planning a wedding and dealing with stressors!)
If it’s something that’s more of a grapevine rumor without any harmful inaccuracies or untruths, then it’s best to let it go. Benign comments or hearsay are often a part of social normalcies, and unkind comments from guests who may feel snubbed or envious, or exes that just can’t let go shouldn’t be given any extra energy. You’ll need it for the big day!
Keep it Off Social Media
In this day and age, many people use social media far beyond its original intent, which is to stay connected. However tempting it may be to throw shade or subtweet, rise above the urge. In the moment, it might feel good to air some grievances or put someone on blast, but it almost always does more harm than good. Be the bigger person and save your posts for the important stuff—like wedding photos!
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Rise Above & Let it Go
It’s easy to feel hurt or discouraged upon hearing anything negative about yourself or your much-anticipated wedding day, and it’s perfectly okay to feel those emotions. But after some time, it’s best to let it go. Rise above the drama and focus on the important stuff, like your marriage, the celebration of your love with your closest family and friends, and all the good that is yet to come. In 10 years, we can almost guarantee this will be a very distant memory.