How to Address Your Save the Date Envelopes

Here's a breakdown so there’s less guest list confusion when it comes time to RSVP

Updated 10/15/19

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About nine months before your wedding, it's time to send out your save the dates. If you're wondering how to address these save the dates, we're here to help. It's actually very similar to addressing the envelopes for your wedding invitations, so it's good practice for when that time rolls around (about two months before the wedding).

The only difference between addressing wedding invitations and a save the date envelope is that the save the dates don't have to be as formal. Traditionally, wedding invitations must include titles (Mr., Mrs., Miss, Dr., Rev., etc.) unless the wedding is an extremely casual affair. On save the dates, however, titles are optional. So ultimately, it's up to you.

Whatever you prefer, read on for a breakdown of how to address wedding save the dates in every situation.

How to Address Save the Dates to a Single Female

When addressing a single female, simply include both her first and last name. If you'd like to use a title, use "Ms." if she is over 18 and "Miss" if she is under 18.

Examples:

1. Ashleigh Nichol

2. Ms. Ashleigh Nichol

3. Miss Ashleigh Nichol

If you're extending a plus one, simply add "and guest" to the address, as follows:

1. Ashleigh Nichol and Guest

2. Ms. Ashleigh Nichol and Guest

3. Miss Ashleigh Nichol and Guest

How to Address Save the Dates to a Single Male

No matter his age, the first and last name can be used without Mr. However, if you do want to include the title, he should be over 18.

Examples:

1. Javier Lagos

2. Mr. Javier Lagos

As with a single female, if you're extending a plus one, simply add "and guest" to the address:

1. Javier Lagos and Guest

2. Mr. Javier Lagos and Guest

How to Address Save the Dates to Married Couples

You should include both people's names in the couple. You can go the traditional route and include titles and full names, but since this is a save the date rather than a formal invitation, it's also perfectly acceptable to leave off the titles—again, it's up to you. Traditionally, the man is listed first. However, if the couple has distinguished titles (such as doctors, reverends, military personnel, etc.) and you'd like to include them, list the person with the distinguished title first. (And, again, because this is a save the date and not a formal invitation, it's still permissible to leave titles off altogether.)

Examples:

1. Peter and Alison Smith

2. Mr. and Mrs. Peter Smith

3. Mr. Peter Smith and Mrs. Alison Smith

4. Dr. Alison Smith and Mr. Peter Smith

How to Address Save the Dates to Dating Couples or Married Couples With Different Last Names

If the couple doesn't share a last name, but they're sharing an invitation, make sure to include both their names, even if you're only friends (or know) one half of the couple. If you use "and guest," it's less personal and it technically means they could swap out their SO for anyone else—and let's say the couple breaks up right before the wedding. Do you really want some random rebound on the arm of the invitee? No, thank you. Address the save the date with both of the couple's names. Traditionally, the man's name goes first, but if you're close to the woman and her boyfriend is coming as her guest, switch up the order and put her name first. If you're addressing a same-sex couple, you can also list the person you're closest to first, or, if you're close to both, you can simply alphabetize the order.

Examples:

1. Sarah Davis and Ross Craton

2. Ms. Sarah Davis and Mr. Ross Craton

or

3. Anna Krups-Smith and Danny Smith

4. Mrs. Anna Krups-Smith and Mr. Danny Smith

How to Address Save the Dates for Families

To make it clear that a couple can bring children, you can list out each child or simply put the family's name. Again, if you're going to use titles, girls under 18 should be addressed as Miss and boys under 18 should have no title.

Examples:

1. The Scotts

2. The Scott Family

3. James, Lily, Emma and Roger Scott

4. Mr. James, Ms. Lily, Miss Emma and Roger Scott

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