Save-the-dates are a great way to give your guests a head start on planning for your wedding. It lets them know the when and the where of your celebration, as well as where they can find your wedding website with more information, so they can start booking their travel and planning their outfits. It also give them one more key piece of information: Who is invited! We asked the experts to break down the best way to address your wedding save-the-dates, so there’s less guest list confusion when it comes time to RSVP.
The general rule of thumb is to address your save-the-dates the same way you’ll be addressing your wedding invitations. You can keep the phrasing a little more casual if you’d prefer, but you should be specific about who is and isn’t included.
For a couple, make sure you name both people on the envelope. For a married couple, you could use both first names (Alison and Peter Smith) or formal titles (Dr. Alison Smith and Mr. Peter Smith), and for an unmarried couple, you should specify that both parties are invited (John Brown and Sam Collins).
If you are inviting a couple who has children, but are not inviting their children, be sure to use the parents’ names on the envelope (Mr. Peter and Mrs. Alison Smith) instead of something like “The Smiths,” which implies that the entire family is invited.
Planning to include children in your wedding invitation? You could either address the save-the-date to “The Smith Family” or to “Mr. Peter and Mrs. Alison Smith,” and then on the next line, list the names of the children.
For someone invited with a guest, make sure to denote that on their save-the-date. The card should be addressed “Natalie Michaels and Guest” so he or she knows that they can bring a plus-one with them — and let their guest know to keep your wedding weekend open!