People believe some insane things when it comes to sex. In fact, sex might be the most misunderstood human interaction on planet earth. There is just no way around it.
If you’ve ever interacted with conservative family members, been to church, or gone on the internet in your life, chances are you’ve heard some pretty interesting “factoids” about sex. When it comes to the internet, some of the information you’ll come across will be valuable (you can find all kinds of well-researched pieces out there on the web!). You’ll also find a lot of garbage. Lots and lots of flaming hot garbage.
While this is by no means a comprehensive list of the incorrect trash you may have heard, here are the top 12 most ridiculous (and kind of hilarious, sort of) sex myths that we’ve ever heard.
1. You can’t get pregnant on top
Fun fact: Sperm are alive and they can swim! It doesn’t matter if you do it on top, on the bottom, upside down, on your side, from behind, or in any other position. If you don’t use a reliable form of birth control, you can get pregnant.
No, reliable does not mean the “pull out method.” Reliable means condoms, dental dams, birth control pills, patches, shots, or an IUD.
2. Pee kills sperm
Pee does not kill sperm. Pee does not kill anything, except maybe houseplants. Don’t pee in your plants either.
3. The female orgasm is a pretend thing people made up
The fact that people think this is extremely frustrating. When aroused, the clitoris becomes engorged with blood in the same way a penis does. Its sole purpose is pleasure. When continuously stimulated, the clitoris will produce a female orgasm. How a woman likes to have her clitoris stimulated varies.
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4. The more sex you have, the looser your vagina will become
Your vagina is very malleable. It can and will bounce back after stretching to accommodate a penis (and a ginormous baby head during birth) no matter how many times you do it.
The only thing that makes a vagina looser is time. Just like everything in and on the body, time and age causes sagging. Thanks, gravity!
5. When women make the first move, it turns their partner off
There has long been truly awful messaging fed to young girls about how they should behave sexually. We’ve been told if we ask for sex, we’ll come off as desperate. If we don’t let our partners make the moves, it will emasculate them.
This just isn’t true. It’s sexy to let your partner know how much you want him or her. If they get turned off by you coming onto them, that’s their problem.
6. Only sluts carry condoms
Responsible, smart women carry condoms. End of story.
7. You can’t get pregnant on your period
While less likely, you actually can get pregnant on your period. Sperm can live inside the body for three to five days. They can be waiting up inside of you and fertilize your eggs whenever ovulation begins. Always use a reliable form of birth control, no matter where you are in your cycle.
No, this does NOT include fertility apps. Ever.
8. Biting someone’s penis or vulva spices things up
Do not EVER bite someone’s genitals unless this is something they have asked you to do. The penis and vulva are very sensitive. Sucking, licking, touching, and fondling are all fine, but teeth are a hard no.
9. Birth control causes infertility, cancer, and probably death
This is a lie told to young girls to make them feel ashamed of their sexuality. Birth control is something every sexually active woman (who has sex with the opposite gender) should be on if they don’t want to get pregnant or use condoms.
10. If you’re a guy who likes anal stimulation, you’re gay
Anal and prostate stimulation can be pleasurable regardless of the gender(s) you prefer to sleep with. The prostate is a gland responsible for producing prostate fluid, a component of semen. When stimulated, it can increase the intensity of orgasm by up to 33 percent.
11. The G-spot isn't a real thing
The G-Spot definitely IS a thing. It is located behind the public bone, near the urethra. It is less of a “spot” and more of an area. What is actually is is the root of the clitoris, and all orgasms are based in the clitoris.
12. Squirting is pee
Speaking of the G-spot, G-spot orgasms can often lead to squirting in some women. When the G-spot area is highly aroused and stimulated, it can lead to a release of fluid from the urethral sponge, or Skene’s Glands. The fluid does contain ureic acid, a component of urine, but it is not urine. In fact, it most chemically resembles prostate fluid.