*Registering for your wedding can get stressful — not only are there a plethora of viable houseware, entertainment, and bedding options, you may have been living with your husband-to-be for years and think you already have all that you need. Which is where we come in: From figuring out how to tactfully ask for money (short answer: you probably shouldn't) to how to go about exchanges, we're dropping some registry etiquette expertise right here. *
First and foremost, you cannot really ask for money.
These days, it's common for couples to shack up long before they say "I do." And therefore, from the many housewarming parties or dreaded trips to Ikea, you may already have the typical registry items newlyweds need. Unfortunately, even if you think of everthing, you can't ask for money. The only exceptions? Your close relatives (we're talking parents here) can help with other needs, say, with the total cost of the wedding, or you can ask guests to partake in a honeymoon registry (free trip, woo!).
Yes, you can exchange, but do so with care. Traditional wedding etiquette deems you should inform guests of your returns or exchanges. While that's the appropriate route, do what you think is right. We'd say this rule really only applies to close relatives who will be over your house and notice their gift's obvious absence.
Remember: Register right before you send out invitations.
Sure, you're an early bird, but you want to make sure the items that catch your eye are still in stock come when your friends and family start shopping. The registry sweet spot is definitely close to when you're planning on sending out invites.