Wedding registries are confusing. You go through all the trouble of picking out gifts, strategizing which price point to be in, and coordinating towels with that bedding you really want, but then you're not allowed to tell people about it. Instead, you have to be coy and let other people share the information for you. Weird, we know, but that's the way it is. So with that standard in mind, is it really ever okay to put registry information on your wedding invitations?
Here's what our experts have to say.
While getting wedding gifts is great—whether you're updating your kitchen gadgets or planning a trip abroad—asking for presents, no matter the context, can be seen as tacky and greedy (yes, even though everyone expects you to put a registry together). So the short answer is, advertising that you've put together a list of presents directly on your wedding invitation really isn't ever okay. Womp.
But here's what you can do. Instead, include an information card along with your invitation. That card is the perfect place to let guests know about your welcome party or morning-after brunch, as well as direct them to your website for anything else they might need. Keep the phrasing vague (something like "For more information about our wedding weekend, please visit our website") instead of calling out that the link will take guests to your wedding registry. Let your mom, mother-in-law, and bridesmaids know where to find it so they can direct guests, as well.
But what if you're asking for guests to make a charitable donation instead of buying you gifts? Again, keep this information off of the invitation itself. However, you could put a note on the information card letting guests know that their presence is present enough, and instead you would love for them to donate to a cause that's dear to your heart. No need to go into any more details—instead, again, direct guests to your wedding website, where you can explain how you chose the charity in question, or offer a few different organizations you love.
Hoping to skip the gifts altogether? A brief "No gifts, please" on your information card will get the point across.