Masturbation is a perfectly healthy activity. It is not weird or abnormal to masturbate while in a relationship. Not at all. In fact, it is a good thing! Sexual intercourse, oral sex, hand sex, and masturbation are all unique sexual acts. Every one of them is valid.
Some of us think about people other than our partners when having sex with ourselves. Some of us don’t. Maybe it’s a combination depending on your mood. There is nothing wrong with you, no matter what you think about. We promise.
Instead of shaming our sexuality, we should embrace and appreciate all it has to offer us.
To help illustrate the dark and deliciously devious things many of us think about when getting ourselves off, here are 6 real women on their ultimate masturbation fantasies. We sincerely hope you find some inspiration.
The tryst with a friend’s hot brother
I think about when I was sixteen at my best friend’s lake house in Wisconsin. She had this super hot older brother. He was about nineteen at the time and in college. I’d only ever see him when I visited the lake house. Anyway, I used to pretend he’d sneak into my room at night and quietly f**k me or go down on me. He’d always whisper that I couldn’t tell anyone we were fooling around. This was all in my head and I don’t think he even thought of me as a female person, but that fantasy still gets me going every single time. It’s so dirty and wrong. Weirdly, I am also still quite good friends with that girl. I haven’t told her about this though. I don’t think she’d care as much as she’d tell me that was information she could live without.
Cheerleader and a football star
My favorite go-to these days is that I’m the head cheerleader at a super traditional public school. Like, the ones with football teams and mascots. I was homeschooled so maybe that’s why I like that so much. I’m either under the bleachers or at what I assume is a boy’s house. Location depends on how I’m feeling. He’s the quarterback or a linebacker or whatever it is. A super huge dude. And I’m a virgin, but we start fooling around and he wants to put it inside me. So, I let him. I like to think there’s a bunch of dirty talk that’s innocent like, “Promise not to come inside me,” or, “I’m still a good girl, but this just feels so good.” I’m sure there are all kinds of psychological reasons why this gets me off, but it works for me every time.
The double team
I’m blowing one guy and then another guy is going down on me. I’m either on my back or on all-fours. Sometimes it’s my husband and other times it’s just two random guys. I specifically changed it up when we were in Paris visiting his parents. I imagined we’d met some other gorgeous French guy in a bar and brought him back to our hotel. My husband had me from behind while I blew the other guy. In other fantasies I’m just being double-teamed by two random guys in a van. Not in a scary, sexual assault way, but I guess I’m kind of a sex worker? I haven’t thought this one all the way through. All I know is that whenever I’m making myself come, in my head two guys are going to town on me—in a way I enjoy and feel is respectful.
You’d get it if you’d seen the movie
Don’t get me wrong, my wife is super hot, but I’ve always had this thing for Charlize Theron. I’ve been masturbating to her for years and years. Then, the movie Atomic Blonde came out and it was a whole new level of excitement for me. There’s this scene where she sleeps with this smoking French girl. They’re both very femme, which I am not, and that really does it for me. Charlize is super dominant. She has the girl on her back and is complete control. I swear to Jesus I have thought of nothing else when masturbating since I saw that film.
Fifty Shades of Grey
I’m not into bondage or BDSM at all so, this might be unusual. I’m blindfolded and my hands are tied above my head. My husband is a full-on leather daddy and I can’t see him because of the blindfold. He uses my mouth to get himself hard and then climbs on top of me to start having sex. He says all kinds of horrifying things to me. He calls me a cock-slut and a good little whore. Things he would never, ever say in real life. He makes me take it all until he comes. Then, to make it even better, he goes down on me until I come. Wow, I’ve never told my partner that I think about this! I think he’d be terrified.
A different kind of lube
OK, so don’t judge me because I bet some people would think this is so gross. When I’m masturbating, I pretend that the guy I’m having sex with, whomever that might be in whatever particular fantasy I’m having, comes inside me. He then takes his finger and slips it inside me to get some of his come. He uses his come to rub my clit and get me off. I know, I know. Grimy. But I love it so much.