It's the most important decision you will make as a couple — other than getting married, of course: having children. Here are three women's stories on what sparked their leap into motherhood.
The Bride Who Really Didn't Want Kids ... at First
Joann recalls, "My husband wanted kids, but I was starting a new career and determined to put off motherhood as long as possible." Her rock hard certainty was chipped away by the sudden appearance into her life of an 18-month-old little boy. "While visiting cousins in Denver I saw how even though the little boy was so energetic his parents were still two very normal people." As in they ran a business, had a social life, and made time for one another. Joann finishes, "I'd thought kids would alter my entire life but after seeing my cousins' lives, I changed my mind."
Seven years and two children later Joann has never regretted her change of heart.
The Bride Who Didn't Want to Waste Anytime
For Lori and her husband, the decision to have a child was all about her age. "I was 39 when we got married so didn't want to waste any time." That wish came true as the twosome had a "honeymoon" baby. She delivered her daughter three months before her 40th birthday.
The couple waited a year before trying again. Their second child was born when Lori was 42. "For some couples having kids at the start of a marriage would be a challenge but since we were older and stable financially and emotionally the timing was perfect!"
The Bride Who Decided to Wait
Pam confides, "When we got married Dave and I initially planned on having kids right away. But then we began enjoying being a couple and decided to wait indefinitely to start a family." Indefinitely didn't last very long. "On our first wedding anniversary we decided to start trying to conceive. Sarah was born 13 months later."
Pam is now pregnant with their second child. "I think you have to continually discuss when the 'right time' is going to be. Life is dynamic; things always change." She adds, "The most important thing is that you both feel aligned and ready to face parenthood as a team. Then, it's a matter of jumping into the baby pool and knowing there will be water!"