Most Americans in this day and age are turning to Tinder or local bars in the hopes of finding the love of their life. But even today, men and women all over the world are being set up by their parents in what is all-too-commonly known as an arranged marriage. If the thought of having your parents choose a viable partner for you makes your skin crawl, you're probably not alone. But thanks to a new thread on Reddit, you may just change your mind about the benefits of arranged marriages.
Rosyregrets recently posed the question, "Redditors in arranged marriages, what is it really like?" Here's what people who have lived in this situation had to say:
"Met my husband on the 9th, agreed to marry him on the 15th, and were wed on the 20th. Literally said about two words to each other, and that was with five members of his family present. Been together 13+ years. It had its ups and downs, like I imagine any marriage would — arranged or not. We are very good together. He tries to makes me happy in any way he can. We are very good friends and I love him, of course. I haven't had any experience with any other relationships so whatever I feel for him is what love is to me!" -Kittiesandunicorns
"I'm American born, but balanced that line between Indian and American. For American boys, I was too Indian. For Indian boys, I was too American. Never officially dated and studied a lot. Went through countless meetings with boys from Indian matrimonial sites and never clicked with anyone. As I reached my 30s, the pressure started to mount. I had pretty much given up on finding someone and had grown content with my work and small group of friends. My father sent me a random profile and said he wanted me to look at it.
I was not at all interested. So, I pretended to be my dad and sent an email to his dad. His dad (who ended up being him) responded to my dad (me) that we should talk. So, I send an email to the guy and wait to hear back. A month goes by and I'm like ok, f*ck you then. Then, I get an email on the first of the new year in 2010. It's him. He wanted to start the year off with me. We talk on email for a bit. Then, the phone. Visit in February. Married in March. We have a 6-year-old son and he and my husband are my world.
So, quasi arranged. And, I'm so grateful to my father for finding this man for me." -extremely_apathetic
"My parents arranged an engagement with one of their friend's daughters. It was an international arrangement so it was a pretty complicated state of affairs with a lot of paperwork. So we got to know each other over a year while the paperwork was getting done. All in all it's been pretty great, definitely not without the typical relationship issues. What's really nice about it though is that our whole family is approving of the relationship so there's a lot of support all around." - Chupachub