When you think of a quickie, do you think of too-rough, kind of grimy sex in the back of your high school boyfriend’s/girlfriend’s SUV? Just us?
Well, having a fast go at sex is not always like that and it really shouldn’t be. Having a good, meaningful, pleasurable quickie is, without a shadow of a doubt, an art. It’s one you can master. When done correctly, have a quickie and be sexy AF.
It has the rough-and-tumble feel we all deserve from time to time. Try these seven quickie sex tips because they will literally change your life.
1. Only remove the necessary clothing
No need to get naked. There are about ten million other occasions to slowly strip each other. Let the quickie be what it is.
One of the staples of a quickie is the can’t-get-my-clothes-off-fast-enough feeling. You don’t have to overthink it. Pull down your pants, lift your dress, pull the panties to the side. This only adds to that erotic tension. There is a feeling of naughtiness to a quickie. A “maybe this is wrong” mentality that is totally raw and hot.
Keep up the vibe and only take off the clothes you need to get at each other’s necessary body parts.
2. Stick to comfortable positions
You can always be creative if you want to be (it’s your life), but sticking to a tried and true position is optimal for quickie success. You know what you’re doing and you know what works for you. This is just the sped up version. If you know missionary is your thing, get it. If doggy style is what you’re into, make it happen. If oral is the best, do that.
Now, if you’re in a place where it has to be quickie for logistical reasons, (for instance, on the road or standing in a broom closet at your office holiday party) keep the positions as comfortable and simple as possible. We all believe that you can put your feet behind your head, but perhaps now is not the time.
3. Don’t forget the lube
When we think of quickies we tend to imagine someone sticking something in our vaginas for a very brief and rapid sexual experience and then that’s it. Kind of gnarly, actually. This should not be the case. You don’t just skip lube because you’re having intercourse on a tight timetable.
If you have time for a five-minute sex session, you have time to grab some lube. It takes literally four seconds to grab a bottle of Sustain and pop it open. If you’re worried about having lube available, just always have some nearby. Have it next to your bed, in your purse, in your glove compartment, and in the shower. “Quickie” is non-synonymous with “chafing.”
4. Play a little stranger-danger...
Like the whole “remove only the clothes you need to” mentality, there is this danger element to having a quickie. It’s full of passion and fire. This is a great opportunity to do a little casual stranger role play.
Does your partner like a little light choking? Very erotic during a quickie. Maybe look away from each other like this is some anonymous hookup. Anything you can do to add to the taboo will up the eagerness. Orgasms galore, my friend.
5. ...Or keep up the eye-contact
Quickies are nothing if not flexible. If you’re not into the stranger-danger thing, you can go for the “God I want you so badly and am so in love with you” style quickie. Make a ton of eye-contact with your partner. Bite your lip in face-to-face positions.
Quickies can be romantic if you want them to be romantic. Fast sex can still be sweet. Hop on your partner’s lap in the Lotus position and rock it out. Put on some Stevie Nicks. You know what you’re about.
6. Quick does not mean no clitoral action
Repeat after us: I will not have a quickie that doesn’t serve me sexually. I will not have a quickie that doesn’t serve me sexually. I WILL NOT have a quickie that doesn’t serve me sexually.
In this instance, we’re assuming the sex is heterosexual because only in a heterosexual instance would your clitoris possibly fall by the wayside during a quickie. You are a grown-ass woman and you are not going to have a quickie that doesn’t involve pleasure. Please.
Make sure you’re getting the action you need down below. Grab your vibrator. That’s always a sure thing, babe. Even if you don’t reach orgasm, that’s OK. You still deserve to have pleasure during sex, no matter the designation.
Again, carry a bullet vibrator in your purse for easy access. It’s hot.
7. A quickie is not just putting something in your vagina
Just to riff on the point above a bit further: A quickie does not always mean penetration. Maybe it’s a super fast trip to Cunnilingus Town or a secret blowjob under a blanket on a plane.
A quickie is what you make it. Don’t be afraid to think outside of the box. Do what feels good for you and your partner.
Gigi Engle is a sex educator and writer living in Chicago. Follow her on Instagram and Twitter at @GigiEngle.
