Whether you’re newly engaged or coming to the end of your wedding planning, the holiday season can add a lot more to your to-do list. There’s shopping for gifts, holiday parties, hosting family and friends, and travel — which doesn’t leave much time for planning a wedding! Can you press pause for a little while and focus on just enjoying the season? Here’s what our experts have to say.
Absolutely! If you’re getting overwhelmed with so much on your list (or just want to enjoy a few weeks as a newly engaged couple before you dive into the details), by all means, put planning on hold until things have calmed down. There are, however, a few things you’ll want to address first.
If you’ve just gotten engaged, and want to have a shorter engagement, you may want to settle on a date so you know how much time you’re working with. You may also want to at least send inquiries to venues and planners (and possibly sign a contract) before you take a break, so the big details are covered. Then give yourself some time to enjoy the moment!
If you’re deep into wedding planning, look at the timelines and to-do lists you’ve created. Is there anything that needs to be addressed soon, such as a payment to a vendor or a decision on dishes and flatware? Get a few things done in advance so there isn’t as much to address when you come back from your break. Be sure to let your wedding vendors know you’re taking a little breather, too, so they’re not frustrated when they don’t hear from you. They can also let you know if there’s anything else that needs to be taken care of ASAP.
Finally, if you’re going to take a break from planning, stick to it! Make a pact with your S.O. to keep wedding talk to a minimum, no matter how many questions your families ask. Write down any questions or ideas that come to mind, but do your best to set that list aside and tackle it once the holidays are over, when you can get back to the details and decisions with a fresh perspective and lots of holiday joy.