Wedding planning comes with a whole slew of reasons why you may be a little, erm, crazier than you were before your S.O. popped the question. Anxiety may arise because of wedding costs, bridesmaid drama, or nightmare mother-in-laws. And while we can sympathize to a point, this specific bride may have taken it too far.
On the parent Web site Mumsnet, one bride depicted her struggle with a sister-in-law who was serving as a bridesmaid. She talked about how the groom's sister, at only 16 years old, just found out she was pregnant. Normally, this would be no big deal, right? Especially considering the sister-in-law will have already given birth to the babe by the time the wedding arrives.
But this bride simply wasn't having it. "There's lot of mixed emotions about the pregnancy flying around the family at the moment understandably," she wrote on Mumsnet, according to the Mirror. "She planned the baby without her boyfriend or anyone else knowing about it, so she's happy about it even if no one else is."
She continued on, saying, "Anyway, am I being unreasonable to think I now really can't have her as a bridesmaid? She'll have a four-month-old to care for and it's really not fair to expect my father and mother-in-law to take on care duties while she does bridesmaid stuff... She's still living in a fantasy world where she'll be able to care for the child as a single parent and still live the life of a normal teenager. She doesn't know the reality of children yet."
That seems reasonable enough, but this next part is what really set people off.
"My partner's extended family will see the baby at Christmas, then my wedding day will only be the second time anyone sees him/her. It's the first baby for a generation, so it will take a lot of the attention away from my partner and I. I want our wedding to be about us, not her."
The bride even considered asking her sister-in-law not to bring her new baby to the wedding, since it's technically a "child-free" celebration. Luckily the community on Mumsnet was there to save the day. The tough love comments ranged from, "Grow up" to helpful suggestions like buying a sling that matches the bridesmaid's dress so she can carry her baby in it on the big day. Overall though, people felt as though the bride-to-be should support her sister-in-law regardless of the fact that she purposefully got pregnant.
Realizing she was overstepping her boundaries, the bride has since decided to keep her SIL as a bridesmaid--and welcome her new baby as a guest at the wedding.
Phew! That was a close one.