Over the past few weeks, you've pinned countless wedding hairstyles and sampled practically every lipstick shade Sephora had to offer. But even after all that prep work, the unthinkable happened: You ended up HATING your wedding hair and makeup trial. Now what? First of all, do not panic.
You scheduled a wedding hair and makeup trial for a reason, right? By arranging this trial run, you will avoid any similar mistakes on the morning of your wedding. This is literally the point of wedding hair and makeup trial—work the kinks out now, so they don't occur on your big day. See? Hating your trial is hardly the end of the world! Now, all you need to figure out is how to move on from your trial fail. Whether you wanted soft, loose waves and got Pollyanna curls or a natural makeup look but got thick false lashes and red lipstick, there are steps you can take to ensure that similar mistakes don't happen on your wedding day.
The key here is to communicate.
We talked to Teddi Cranford, founder of White Rose Collective, to get her advice on how to handle a wedding hair and makeup trial you simply hated.
Take Preventative Measures
First things first, you want to do everything in your power to prevent a situation like this from popping up. That means not jumping the gun on booking your hair and makeup trial if you haven't picked out your wedding dress, venue, or wedding date yet. "Your beauty look should be curated around the other wedding details," explains Cranford. Ask your married friends for some references, and make sure you do your own research to see if a particular person is a good fit (Instagram is a great resource!).
"Your hairstylist and makeup artist should have a clear sense of your style, and inspiration photos should have already been exchanged prior to the appointment."
Communication is critical, not just before your trial, but during it as well. "Try to be yourself, and be completely honest and open," advises Cranford. "Share your bad beauty experiences and your best ones too." That way, your hair and makeup artist can get to know you even better. Having a conversation and really collaborating throughout the entire process is so important, says Cranford. "You have to try things together and experiment. Both you and your stylist must speak up."
Go Back for a Second Trial
Unless the first wedding hair and makeup trial was a total disaster and the person wasn't willing to listen, much less capable of making the requested changes, give your stylist or makeup artist a second chance. "When things don't go well, you can typically get a sense if someone is going to be able to get there with you," notes Cranford. "The stylist should follow up, and you should offer feedback. For example, if your hair fell limp after a few hours or you were hoping for a more natural makeup look, say so." And remember, if you do go back for a second trial come in with firm opinions and a laundry list of specific things you were bothered by the last time.
Write them down if you have to.
Know When to Cut Ties
Alternatively, be self aware enough to know when it's you that's the problem! As Cranford pointed out earlier, sometimes brides come in prematurely. If you aren't sure of your own vision, you can't expect your stylist or makeup artist to be either. Second trial didn't pan out? Assuming you followed the advice above, it's probably time to cut ties.
See more: Why I Hated My Wedding Hair and Makeup
Find a New Stylist
If you do decide it's best to move on to a new stylist, Cranford recommends really going in smart. "Understand who their client is and self-evaluate to see if it matches up with your style. Having a connection with your beauty professional is key."