4 Need-to-Know Facts Before Anyone Pops the Question

Well, besides your favorite diamond cut, of course..

Updated 01/03/17
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Once you've decided that you've found the one and you're getting plans in place to pop the question, you may want to take a step back and understand what’s going to happen after you are engaged and before you're married. Here are four things everyone should know before they pop the question and climb aboard the wedding train.

You Don't Have to Get Married Right Away
If you're dragging your feet to propose because you don't want to get married for a couple more years, it's good to know that just because you pop the question it doesn't mean you need to race to make it down the altar. The engagement period can last as long as you and your soon-to-be finance want, whether that means two months or two years.

She May Not Like the Ring
You may decide to consult with her mom, sister or best friend for insight on the type of ring to get, but in the end, the ring you pick may not be her taste. If that's the case, don't take it personally and look into investing a little more into a ring return or exchange policy, if the store you're buying from offers one.

You Don't have to Ask for Permission
Back in the day, it was tradition to ask the bride's father for permission before proposing. Today, that tradition has taken a back seat, and it's good to know that you don't have to take that route if you don't want to. But if you do want to give the parent's a heads up that you're proposing, it's always nice to tell them in person ahead of time.

Things May Get Stressful
The idea of engagement bliss may wear off fast if you jump right into wedding planning, so look out for some extra stress and a lot less free time after popping the question and before the wedding date. Take a deep breath and try to relax and take everything in stride! The memories will be worth it.

Jen Glantz the founder of Bridesmaid for Hire and the author of the new book Always a Bridesmaid (For Hire). She frequently wears old bridesmaid dresses to the grocery store and on first dates.

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