Mom vs. Mom: How the Mother of the Bride's Duties Differ from the Mother of the Groom's

Updated 06/25/14

Kate Webber Photography

When it comes to wedding planning, there's enough work to go around — and both your mother and mother-in-law to-be will want to pitch in. So here's how the most important women in your life should divvy up their wedding duties.

The mother of the groom should...

— Offer your beau financial assistance — if desired — for those things traditionally paid for by the groom's family, such as your bouquet and the rehearsal dinner. (But don't be offended if she doesn't — many couples are now paying for their weddings solo.)

— Attend the bridal shower with a gift and a smile.

— Check in with your mom about her wedding-day attire — their looks should complement and not compete with one another — and shop for her outfit up to six weeks before the big day.

— Plan and host the rehearsal dinner, which could take up to six months to organize.

— And dance with her son at the reception, of course!

The mother of the bride should...

— Discuss your wedding budget with you, and the ways she and your father would like to contribute.

— Be the back-up contact for wedding professionals, including your planner, caterer and florist.

— Help you choose your wedding gown — tears aren't required, but definitely appreciated!

— Ask your opinion on what she should wear for the big day, and purchase her attire up to six weeks before the wedding.

— Attend or even organize your bridal shower, depending on what you decide with your 'maids.

— And be there for any pre-wedding breakdowns, crisis and moments of pure joy!

Both mothers should...

— Help spread the word on where you're registered to their family and friends.

— Seek out recommendations for wedding professionals and ceremony and reception sites — as long as you've asked for their input.

— And see you off from the reception as the two of you embark on your new life together!

What do you wish your mother and future mother-in-law would do for your big day? Tweet us @brides using the hashtag #BridesMOMS.

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