*Your wedding day is a momentous occasion for everyone involved — including your mother and future mother-in-law. So it's understandable that they'll want to look their best on the big day, too. Just like you'll get your hair and makeup done, one (or both!) of these special ladies might choose to do the same. But what happens if your mom doesn't feel comfortable going full glam for your ceremony and reception? Here, out etiquette expert weighs in on what to do when your mom doesn't want to have her hair and makeup done for the wedding but your future MIL does. *
If your first inclination is to be worried about it looking odd if your mom isn't as done up as your future mother-in-law, we're here to tell you that's the last thing you need to stress out about. Both of these important women are going to look their best at your wedding, whether they wear a bunch of make-up on or not. You want both ladies to feel comfortable all day long, and if your mom feels at her best wearing a little less make-up, so be it. Ultimately, no one is going to question why your mother arrived with less makeup than the MOG.
Figure out why it's really bothering you. After all, would you really mind if your mom stepped out to dinner without a full face of makeup? Perhaps your real qualm is over the fact that your mom won't be in the bridal suite as you get dolled up, and you'll be sharing that experience with someone else's mom instead. It's a real fear, and totally justifiable, so tell your mom that she can arrive at the wedding with or without makeup, but you'd still like her to be there for the getting-ready process.
If you still feel hung up on the idea of your mom will look entirely fresh-faced in your wedding photos, try to compromise. A nice tinted moisturizer and a few coats of mascara will help her best features pop without making her feel overdone. If she still won't budge on the topic, just let it go. This day is about you and your fiancé, and the people who are attending are there for you two, not to see whose mother looks best.