While there is endless information out there on the different types of flowers you can have at your wedding—including inspiration up the wazoo for gorgeous bouquets and centerpieces, aisle decor, and floral chandeliers—there's not a whole lot out there on what not to do. We're not talking about unsightly floral combinations here, but rather the way couples approach meeting with their florists. Odds are, you've scoured social media and magazines to pinpoint the exact vibe you want to evoke with your floral arrangements, but you may not have worked with a florist before, so you should prepare yourself for any potential setbacks.
Much of it has to do with expectation versus reality. When it comes to things like scheduling a consultation too early, heavily relying on photos you've found online, and trying to replicate your favorite details exactly, many to-be-weds set themselves up for disappointment. To get the inside track on common mistakes brides and grooms make when choosing flowers for their weddings, we spoke to the oh-so-talented florist Victoria Ahn of Designs by Ahn, a New York City-based floral design company.
Meet the Expert
Victoria Ahn is a New York City-based florist and the owner of Designs by Ahn. She specializes in floral arrangements for weddings and events.
Read on for expert advice on how to avoid these five common mistakes when choosing your wedding flowers.
Creating Unorganized Inspiration Boards
When you put together an inspiration board of ideas, it can be quite helpful. However, if the collection of images doesn’t follow a theme in terms of color palette and style, it can be confusing and more difficult for your florist to understand what you actually want to see on your wedding day. If your photos seem to be all over the place and you need help deciding the best route to go for your wedding, have a discussion with your florist first. They can help steer you in the right direction, and you’ll have a clear theme for your inspiration board to follow.
Having Fixed Ideas About Certain Details
We love a couple that knows what they want. It becomes challenging, however, when they become fixed on particular details such as the “perfect” shade of peach or the exact openness of a peony. As much as florists want to give you exactly what you’re asking for, nature has unlimited variants, and the specific shade or shape you’re looking for simply might not be available, says Ahn. Always voice your preferences, but be open to a little flexibility when it comes to specific details.
Consider the season you're getting married in and the location of the event to determine which blooms will be readily available. It's not always possible, or can at least become expensive, to import certain flowers out-of-season, so it's best to have some alternatives in mind.
Believing Everything You See Online
As we all know, photos can be misleading. Florists are frequently shown pictures of flowers that have been heavily edited with Photoshop and filters, says Ahn. Unfortunately, these edits can sometimes result in hues that simply do not exist in nature, and it can be difficult to tell what’s real and what’s not. So, before you fall in love with that unique trending shade you’ve never seen before, check with your florist. The reason you’ve never seen it might be because it doesn’t actually exist.
Scheduling a Consultation Too Early
It’s obvious that waiting until the last minute is never a good idea. But believe it or not, getting started too early isn’t always the best idea, either. There are a few key things that you need to know before discussing flowers: your wedding date, venue, and approximate guest count. Without those three things locked in, the conversation is extremely limited. Not to mention changing trends. We’ve seen many couples who thought they were getting a jump start on their flowers by coming in super early. Then, once the trends change, they have tons of new ideas and even rethink their entire color palette, essentially starting from scratch again.
If you're booking a highly coveted florist, you may have to schedule your consultation up to nine months before your wedding date. However, for most florists, booking anywhere from five to seven months out is usually ideal.
Overlooking the Florist’s Design Aesthetic
While many florists can accommodate varying styles, designers tend to have a certain aesthetic. Make sure your chosen florist's aesthetic matches the look you’re going for. Research the past work of the florists you’re considering to get a full scope of their abilities. For example, if you love a loose, organic bouquet, you’ll want to avoid making appointments with florists who only feature photos of tight, rounder designs. Try to choose the florist whose prior designs reflect your preferred style the best, and embrace their creativity. Remember, your inspiration pictures are just that—inspiration. Let your florist do their thing and create a design that's unique to you and your wedding style.