In our next installment of the Meditation How-Tos marriage advice series, the Kundalini guide behind Benshen, Desiree Pais, gives you the step-by-step methods you need to practice to stay focused and calm before, during, and after you tie the knot.
While there are many beauty tips, tools, and tricks out there to help enhance your appearance, real beauty comes from within and radiates out. You’ve seen that woman—she walks into the room, lights up the space with her smile, and all heads turn to her. She could be wearing a potato sack and still everyone would think she is the most beautiful woman in the room. Why? Because she feels good about herself and it shows more than anything in the world.
So, what exactly is that radiant inner beauty and where do we get it? That, ladies, is a superpower called confidence—or self-worth as the ever-inspiring Lacy Phillips of Free + Native calls it. Confidence and self-worth are super important, especially at times when you're the center of attention (aka your wedding day!), which can adversely lead many of us to go to extremes to feel perfect. But it’s exactly this drive for perfection that causes us to feel more stressed out, leaving us with no energy to actually enjoy the experience at hand.
Luckily, Kundalini yoga has practices that can totally change how you feel about yourself, taking you from insecure to powerful within a matter of minutes. Imagine: all the time and money you invest into feeling better can be replaced with a meditation that will change your perspective—forever. One of these practices is known as Sat Kriya.
There are so many benefits to Sat Kriya—when I began practicing it in January, I had been dealing with acne for five years and all the self-loathing and insecurities that come with it. Not only did Sat Kriya help clear my skin (it balances the hormones), but it also made me feel more confident, sexy, and beautiful than I had ever felt in my life. It showed me that confidence is a super power that we all have access to—you just have to tap into it.
Your wedding day especially is the last day you want to feel anything less than beautiful. Meditation is like life insurance: It ensures that we feel confident, calm, secure, happy, and beautiful when we need to the most. To make the most of this powerful practice, start with three minutes a day and slowly build to 11 minutes, saying goodbye to insecurities and hello to radiance.
To learn how to do Sat Kriya, watch this video with one of my favorite Kundalini Yoga instructors, Simrit Kaur! (Note: do not practice Sat Kriya on your menstrual cycle.)
Desiree Pais is a meditation and Kundalini-yoga guide and a natural-beauty alchemist. She is currently pursuing a master's degree at Pacific College of Oriental Medicine, and she studied Daoist healing with Grandmaster Sung Baek. She teaches Kundalini yoga and meditation classes and workshops around New York City. She aims to make these ancient methods available to anyone who is interested in using this profound practice to create the life they want to experience.