There are plenty of places you can have sex in your house, but the bedroom is old faithful. It's the obvious go-to spot for getting busy. Your bed is there, all your favorite lingerie...and sex toys within reach.
Yep, the bedroom is great for sex. But, sometimes you get out of your element. You find the bedroom is no longer a place where you want to have sex due to mess, clutter, and your laptop making its way onto your lap at bedtime.
You've got to keep the bedroom sacred. "Your bedroom is your sensual space and a space for you two to relax and reconnect. You should feel sensual when you enter the room," sex expert Nikki Ransom-Alfred tells Brides.
So, how do you make your bedroom sexy? It's not complicated. Stick to the commitment to keep this space tranquil and sexy with these expert tips.
Designate the bedroom for sex and sleeping only.
Keep work and kids out of the bedroom. Obviously, this is easier said than done when life gets incredibly busy, but you have to do it. The bedroom is a place that must be associated with tranquility and peace. If you start bringing projects into bed, letting the kids sleep with you, and folding laundry in the bedroom, it stops being a sexy place for you and your partner.
Invest in high-quality sheets.
"Feeling your entire body immersed and covered in a soft satin or silk fabric is guaranteed to make one feel relaxed, sexy, and erotic," Ransom-Alfred says. As tempting as it is to buy some sheets from the discount section at Walmart, you want the bedroom to feel like a lush place. Invest in the good sheets. They last longer and will make you want to get naked. Plus, experts say that high quality sheets help stave off wrinkles and keep frizzy hair in check.
Spritz your linens with lavender oil.
Lavender oil will calm your senses and get you relaxed, an important state of mind when you're looking to get more action. Just a few sprays and you'll feel like you're at an erotic spa. Just be sure the spray is hypoallergenic and made with 100 percent lavender oil, because getting a rash is not sexy! We love Moregasm Mist from Lovability, made with all-natural oil. While you're at it, hang some fairy lights over the bed; florescence is so 2001.
Make a relaxing, sensual playlist.
Music really does make all the difference. After a long, stressful day at the office filled with coworkers and fires to put out, you need a playlist to guide you through the comedown. Pick songs that inspire sexy feelings. Go with soft music that helps you unwind. If you're looking for a curated playlist, we are big fans of this sensual sex playlist on Spotify.
Stock your goodie drawer.
Get some erotic goodies and stock up that nightstand. Make sure you have a vibrator, your favorite lube, condoms (if you don't have an alternative birth control method), a cock ring, and even some kink equipment like handcuffs or a blindfold. If you have sexy gear within reach, you'll be more inclined to make use of your toys.
Place mirrors in interesting places.
Don't be shy. Get yourself some mirrors and place them around the room with purpose. Oh yeah, you know what purpose we're talking about. Let go of your inhibitions and fears! This is your bedroom, after all.
"Mirrors with or without decorative frames bring a sensual ambience to the room and up the kink factor when you utilize those mirrors during sex," explains Ransom-Alfred. We're not talking about a tacky mirror on the ceiling, but that doesn't mean you can't make mirrors work to your visual advantage. Hang a mirror across from the bed. You'll be able to get a nice long look at your naked body during sex. The sight might be intoxicating.
Keep the room in order.
Now, housework is a pain in the butt, but a disgusting bedroom will kill libido faster than a bed full of broken glass. "A cluttered room will make for a cluttered mind and will inhibit relaxation and sensual feelings," Ransom-Alfred says.
Try to keep the bedroom tidy and neat. You'll want to get a little dirty when the room is clean. Plus, order makes for a tranquil space, and you need that for more sex.