Moving in with your partner is an incredibly exciting experience! You’ll FINALLY get to fall asleep next to, and wake up next to the one you love every day, and will no longer have to worry about coordinating schedules or dates just to get some quality time in. As exciting as it is, though, there are some conversations that should happen prior to the big move-in day. Here are some important talking points.
This is a biggie. Living together means sharing in the rent or mortgage of your new digs, and all the utilities and other bills that come along with it. Whether you were both living free of charge at your parents’ house prior to shacking up, or have both been independently financing your expenses, it’s merger time. How you chose to share, split or combine your finances is entirely up to you as a couple, but it’s essential to come up with a clear and agreed upon plan. Will you both keep private bank accounts but open up a shared one, too? Will everything be solid 50/50? Will the top-earner be expected to contribute more? These are all important questions to discuss.
Cooking & Groceries
For avid aspiring chefs, perhaps living together will mean even more time spent in the kitchen. For those who prefer their meals delivered hot to their door, it can also mean double the takeout bill. Regardless of your old habits, talk together about your plans for meals, cooking, and budgeting for them too. Maybe you’ll want to meal prep on a Sunday to be ready for the week ahead, or you’ll set a takeout limit to weekends only. However you opt to work it out, planning will take away the stress, prevent overspending, and ensure both of you are full and happy.
When you live apart from your partner, communication is essential. You probably have fallen into routines including before-bed texts, lunch break chats or morning emoji swaps, but when you live together, how will communication change? Perhaps you’d like to still check in at lunch, or maybe waking and sleeping together will take the place of that. It’s important to be on the same page regarding communication expectations to ensure smooth sailing.
Condensing two lifestyles complete with individual belongings into one household can be tough. It’s essential for both you and your love to inventory all items that you’re planning to move into your new shared space prior to packing up the moving trucks. The last thing you want is to end up with duplicates, especially of larger items that are taking up precious space. If you can’t agree on what to ditch and what to keep (and drawing straws isn’t working) perhaps you can compromise with new purchases as a fresh start!
Okay, so this may sound like something you heard of in college, but hear us out. Especially if you’re sharing a smaller space for your first home, quiet time is crucial! Maybe it just means that after a certain time, you lower the volume on the TV or pop in headphones. (Especially in a studio!) For some, it may mean lights completely out after a certain time. If one partner works late (or even has a late night) maybe they’ll agree to keep their pajamas and other belongings in the living room to not disturb your precious slumber. While keeping things agreeable and as natural as possible, it’s important to ensure your lifestyles complement one another and enable you to have enough rest and quiet time.