It's the final countdown! In 30 days, you're going to say "I do," but you still have a lot of things to do that are surely keeping stress levels high. Consider Adreina Herrera (@spanishdrizzy) who told Brides about a wedding planning hurdle she faced that sent things into a last-minute tailspin.
"I lost my wedding venue 3 months before my wedding!! But we found a new venue and we’re getting married in 2 months. At this point, I just want to walk down the aisle and say I do until forever," she said, adding, "but that was so stressful for me."
Herrera elaborated on how wedding planning with her fiancé Michael—her high school sweetheart, whom she got engaged to last August at Peltzer Winery in Temecula—has been a "rollercoaster."
"He is from Indonesia, I am Hispanic, so our relationship has had its differences, but love is love and we want to spend the rest of our lives together," she says. "His family wanted to have 400 guests which made it difficult to find a venue we liked that fit that many people, but after losing out venue, we cut our list down to 250. I can't wait to marry my best friend though, so the obstacles we have endured are nothing compared to what’s coming! The worst part about wedding planning has been trying to stay within our budget, because let’s be real, that’s so difficult when you’re a picky bride!"
But for Herrera and all other brides who have just weeks to go before their big day, don't panic. Just take a look at this list of 11 things to do in the last 30 days before your wedding to help you feel more at ease before walking down the aisle.
1. Finish your packing list — completely — making sure to list every outfit you and your fiancé will need. You should have started the list months before but this is your change to tweak and perfect it.
2. Do your last minute shopping for clothing, toiletries, special perfume, etc. Make sure your fiancé has their half of the list under control. Sometimes grooms need a little help so that you don't have to freak and stress about what they didn't do a week before your wedding.
3. Make sure you have enough luggage (and space in the luggage) for what you need to pack. If you need a garment bag and don't have one, get one.
4. Make a packing list for your honeymoon... and then go back and do the first three items on this list for your honeymoon too.
5. Complete a detailed schedule of all of your wedding activities and events — right down to the minute. Include vendors and your wedding party on this schedule.
6. Take advantage of apps like Messenger that can make planning in a pinch more seamless and less stressful. Create a group chat for your bridal party via Messenger without having to worry about who is an Android user and who is on iMessage. Best part? You can even easily group video chat through the app to quickly get your bridesmaids' feedback on shoes or accessories.
Not to mention you can also assign nicknames (tap edit nicknames and customize) to each member of the group so everyone can easily identify who the MOH or mother of the bride is—or keep the bachelorette party fun going by giving everyone funny nicknames. Wedding planning doesn't always need to be all work and no play!
Messenger also helps keep the group chat organized with the ability to reply directly to individual messages with the "message reply" function. Just long-press on the message you want to reply and tap the 'reply' icon to quote the message above your response. You can hit 'reply' to GIF, video, emoji, text and photo message and see the full original message in your text thread, so people know exactly what you're responding to.
You can even send money via Messenger's chat so if you need to pay back a bridesmaid for grabbing some emergency fashion tape you don't even need to leave the app (cross one more thing off your to-do list!).
You should also set up a chat with your wedding planner to easily share files with them like your wedding mood board which will help you collaborate on last minute decor ideas or schedules. Click the add file button and send word documents/pdfs, photoshop files and even videos—perfect for signed contracts you want to get to your planner with a quick click.
Don't forget to also set reminders for meetings with your wedding planner, special activities with your bridesmaids and any big moments with family and friends ahead of the wedding. Access the reminders icon and get more done so you don't forget dates, times and locations of events. Share them with the group chat, so everyone can respond to your reminders.
And most importantly: utilize "dark mode." Excessive blue light use, especially during late night wedding planning days before your big day can make it even harder to get quality beauty sleep. For those sleepless nights messaging your wedding planner and bridesmaids, switch to dark mode by swiping right in Messenger settings. Protect your wedding glow!
7. Contact every vendor to confirm the times (and dates) on the schedule no later than three weeks out.
8. Confirm all of your own travel arrangements. You've been making a lot of plans: Did you remember to reserve your own rental car and hotel room? Make sure none of your flight times have been changed (that does happen).
9. Get a facial and do any necessary waxing at least 10 days prior to your wedding date. Facials can cause breakouts and waxing causes discomfort you don't want to feel on your wedding night.
10. Visit the hair stylist and makeup artist for a practice run. Do not do this on the same day you have your facial. If you're having a destination wedding, pre-schedule this appointment for as soon as possible after you arrive in your destination just in case you don't like the results and have to make a change.
11. Send out your detailed vendor schedules to all of your vendors at least one week prior to your wedding. If anybody doesn't respond within 24 hours, call them directly and get confirmation that they will, in fact, be where they are supposed to be, when they are supposed to be there on your wedding day.
Owner of Weddings in Vieques, a destination-wedding planning company off the coast of Puerto Rico, Sandy Malone has helped countless couples plan their big day since 2007.