In a candid interview this week, Kristen Bell and Mila Kunis revealed they delayed getting married until marriage equality laws were passed. Their sit-down with PrideSource was part of promotion for their new movie, A Bad Moms Christmas, in theaters starting today. The conversation also touched on the robust gay communities both Bell and Kunis experienced growing up, but their committed, no-brainer approach to being allies was striking.
"It just felt gross," Bell said, thinking back to the idea of getting hitched before marriage equality. "What are we gonna do? Have a party and be like, 'Look at us celebrating this thing you can't do?' That's f***ing putrid. Like, 90 percent of our friends are gay!"
Bell and Kunis didn't have a pact not to get married until after laws had been passed—they found out during the interview that they both had the same thinking when it came to marriage equality. Kunis, having grown up immersed in the large West Hollywood LGBTQ community, expressed this to her parents at a young age.
"My dad talked about it on my wedding day," Kunis recalled. "His whole speech was about when I was 14, I told my parents I'm never getting married and they were like, 'OK, let's talk about this.' I was like, 'I'm not getting married because the gays can't get married, and so I'm never getting married.'"
At the time, Kunis never thought marriage equality would come to pass, so she'd resigned to never get married. "It just didn't feel equal, so why would I?" she said. "The concept of marriage didn't make sense to me because my friends couldn't do it, and I found nothing wrong with what they wanted. So, I was like, 'Well, then it's not sacred, then it's not what it's supposed to be, so I don't want it.' "
Even when Kunis was dating Macaulay Culkin, she staunchly denied reports that they had plans to marry. When asked about marriage, she told BlackBook magazine in 2009, "Not to say that I don't believe in it, but it's just not that important to me." Now we know why.
Although Kunis and Ashton Kutcher didn't get engaged until February 2014, after same-sex marriages were recognized by federal law, Bell and her husband Dax Shepard extended their engagement to wait for the laws to catch up. They announced their plans to marry in January 2010. When the Defense Against Marriage Act (DOMA) was struck down by the Supreme Court in June 2013, Bell asked Shepard to marry in a celebratory tweet.
Bell and Kunis shared stories of how they found out about the marriage equality news. That day, Bell and Shepard were watching DOMA coverage on opposite coasts. As soon as the news came in, "I proposed to him on Twitter to make a f***ing point of it," Bell said. "To be like, 'Now [marriage is] OK, but before, it was not cool.' "
Kunis was literally suspended in midair, filming a stunt for a movie when her roommate texted with the news. She started crying right there in the middle of a scene with "fire blowing everywhere." Then Kutcher texted her, "Now what?" She replied, "OK," signaling to him that they could get married now that it was legal for all.
Throughout the interview with PrideSource, the actresses sprinkled in hints about Bad Moms—without spilling spoilers—saying that the raunchy comedy could be the much-needed light at the end of a tumultuous year. Bell wondered aloud if one scene in particular could "fix 2017." Kunis replied, "It won't, you guys, but I like this wishful thinking."