In the days following your wedding, a nasty little emotion can sneak straight past your newlywed bliss and ruin your otherwise awesome mood: Regret. "It can be realizing you gave in to your mother's wedding wishes instead of having the elopement you really wanted," poses April Masini, relationship expert and advice columnist. "It can be missing your father who died a year ago and wasn't there to walk you down the aisle. In other words, your feelings may not be about the wedding as much as about other issues that are hiding behind the wedding."
But you don't have to give in to post-wedding regrets. Here's how you can kick them to the curb, instead.
1. Take a mini-vacation.
You may have just returned from your honeymoon, but nothing can perk you up and help you refocus on your new family quite like a little rest and relaxation for a "weekend in a cabin in the woods, a luxurious spa with body wraps, soaks and steams," suggests Masini, "or a tech black-out where you turn off your phone, your e-mail and the texting, and watch movies, drink red wine, and eat good food with your new spouse. Sometimes distancing yourself from the residual fray of the wedding and the honeymoon is a great way to get back in the swing of things."
__2. Plan your first wedding anniversary event. __
"If it wasn't the wedding you wanted, and you've realized this too late, it's smart to plan a new event related to your marriage," says Masini. "It can be a renewal of vows, the reception you really wanted, or some semblance of the wedding you had hoped for, didn't get, and are blue about. Realizing you can do it again is liberating and uplifting!"
__3. Get together with your girlfriends. __
Invite your favorite gal pals over for dinner, because "getting back to the basics and the people you love is a wonderful way to wash away regret, negative feelings and wedding remorse," Masini says. "Don't invite anyone who's an obligatory or default guest list guest. No plus ones. Just your near and dear, old-time friends — the ones who make you feel good about yourself, yourselves, your marriage and life. These are the friends you don't have to make the bed for, or put on makeup for. They're the ones who will be there for you through thick and thin — kind of like your spouse!"