Ian Somerhalder and Nikki Reed, like countless couples before them, decided it was time to become parents when they were riding a vacation high. Yes, the origin of Bodhi Soleil, the couple’s nearly-two-month-old daughter, can be traced to a trip to Barcelona, where Somerhalder took (questionable) action and dumped his wife’s birth control down the toilet.
“We decided that we wanted to have children together, and it was just time,” The Vampire Diaries star explained in an appearance on the podcast Dr. Berlin’s Informed Pregnancy, according to The Cut. “But unbeknownst to poor Nikki, she didn’t realize that I was going to go in her purse and take out her birth control. By the way, it was the beginning of the pack, so I had to pop all those suckers out. It is a lot of work, especially after a little bit of sangria.”
While it sounds like Somerhalder only ditched Reed’s pills after they had made the decision to try for a family together, the idea of a husband disposing of his wife’s birth control is a little unsettling. Maybe this was a ritual they should have done as a couple?
Amidst the outrage, Reed took to Twitter to address critics. In one tweet, the actress wrote, ""WOMEN'S RIGHTS MATTER, so please don't use false narratives to highlight issues that are truly important!" while in another, she continued, "We should be talking about these things, but using a funny interview between married ppl &twisting it to perpetuate gossip is irresponsible."
The new parents have been vocal about their commitment to their growing family, explaining they would be taking a “month of silence” after their daughter’s birth to enjoy their new baby. Reed explained their first month together would involve “just the three of us, no visitors, and we’re turning off our phones too, so there’s no expectation for us to communicate. Otherwise, every five minutes it would be, ‘How are you feeling? Can we have a picture?’ You don’t get those first 30 days back, and we want to be fully present.”
Somerhalder didn’t quite make it a full month without returning to social media, though it seems like his wife (and someday, his daughter) will forgive his lapse. His first post-baby post was a sweet caption under Reed’s cover of Fit Pregnancy. He writes in the post, “Thank you for being my partner in this life and thank you for inspiring not just me but all others who read, hear or see what your soul gives us.”
So sweet, but, you know, maybe ask next time before disposing of at least a month’s worth of birth control pills that aren’t yours.