How to Word Your Wedding Invitation

Updated 09/02/19

Ashley Buzzy

You've spent hours poring over card stocks and fonts, but what should your wedding invitations actually say? Don't worry if you're not familiar with all the rules for wording your invites — you're about to be totally covered. We asked the best of the best, Ellen Weldon, stationer to the stars (she's Oprah's go-to), to give us a cheat sheet for every possible scenario.

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Above: Your Married parents are hosting

They're footing the bill, so put their names up top. Insert your mom's last name if it's different from your dad's.

But what if...

His parents are hosting too

Add an "and" after line 1, then a line with his parents' names. Change "daughter" to "children" and "to" to "and."

You're a same-sex couple

If both sets of parents are hosting, their respective names should be listed on

two separate lines in the same order as yours. If only one set is hosting, put just their names on the host line.

You're really old-school

Go with "Mr. and Mrs. Michael Martinez." Put a "Mr." in front of the groom's name too.

Your ceremony is in a house of worship

Change line two on the invitation (below the parents names) to "request the honor of your presence."

You're Jewish

Replace "to" between your names with "and."

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Above: Your parents are divorced

Even if they're cohosting, put your mom and dad on separate lines, with her coming first.

But what if...

You want to include a stepparent

Add the name to his/her spouse's line. Note: The woman's name always goes first on each line— even if she's your stepmother.

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Above: You two are hosting

You're paying for your bash, so your full names should go first.

But what if...

But, you want to include your parents

Add "Together with their families" above your names.

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Above: Or maybe, you're not the traditional type

These days, you don't have to follow wording etiquette to the letter. As long as your fête isn't formal and you include the essential info guests need — who, what, when, and where — you can be as creative as you want. Have it read the way you'd actually say it! Use numerals instead of spelling out numbers! If following the rules isn't your thing, forget them and do you.

*Things to remember if... *

You hate your middle name

Skip it! Middle names are 100 percent optional.

You have a dress code

Print it in the lower-right-hand corner.

You're including reception information

For a super-formal wedding, or when the vows and party are in different venues, reception details should go on a separate card. Otherwise, just add a note to the lower-left-hand corner.

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