In long-term relationships, partnerships, and marriages, we’re constantly looking for new and exciting ways to make our sex lives hotter. We don’t want to lose the spark. From new lingerie to cunnilingus and blow job tips, the options are seemingly endless (and overwhelming).
Being sexually adventurous is amazing, but sometimes you just want a little subtle, ya know?
What about ways to get your partner going without using your hands, mouth, or other body parts? Hands-free turn ons? Say what?
Here is how to turn your partner without even touching them…because we could all use a little holiday magic this season.
Send a sext (and get a little weird)
If you’re feeling frisky, it’s better to get the fire going before you’re even in the same room with your partner. If your partner is at work or out with his or her friends, send a risqué text—and get creative.
For beginners, sexting can be awkward, but it’s better to just go for it. Sexting is virtual foreplay. Use technology to your advantage.
You don’t have to send anything graphic (if you don’t want to). A simple, “I can’t wait until you get home. I want you naked” will do nicely.
Now, if you’re feeling bold—you can call your partner and leave a dirty voicemail or send a sexy SnapChat video. Start with a quick text to warn your partner about the naked snap so he or she doesn’t open it in front of a co-worker. Talk about awkward.
Wear something that makes YOU feel sexy
We all have that one outfit that makes us feel like the sexiest POA to ever walk the planet. Wear that outfit. Confidence livens your energy and genuinely makes you hotter. If you feel good about how your butt looks in those pants, you’re going feel like having sex. I mean, check you out, seriously.
Your partner will sense how you feel about yourself, which is super sexy in itself. You being turned on by yourself turns your partner on. Knowing your partner is feeling themselves kind of makes you want to feel your partner. Which is the point! Bada-bing-bada-boom.
Get a new toy
Get out there and buy yourself something nice. Treat yo’self! No, we don’t mean lingerie. We mean a sex toy. A new vibrator, cock ring, or butt plug can give you some much-needed swagger. Check out your local sex toy boutique and see what sorts of goodies they have for couples.
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You can loop this one into #1 by sending your partner a picture of the new toy with the caption, “See you tonight.” Phew, is it hot in here?
Let your body do the talking
Don’t have the right thing to say, but itching to get it on? You don’t need to talk to get the point across. Body language is a powerful tool, especially with someone you know and trust.
Make a lot of eye contact with your partner. Not in weird, starring for multiple minutes kind of way, but in a sexy way. Brush up against them with your fingertips. Offer to give them a massage or a head rub. Don’t worry, your partner will get the message before too long.
Get the topic of sex into the conversation
If you are going to talk, bring sex into the chatter. You don’t have to start reciting porn lines (if you don’t to). There is no need for cheesiness if it’s not going to be sexy. You don’t have to grab a cucumber and make hand job gestures to make a point (though that sounds hilarious).
Instead, make some dirty jokes or sexual innuendos/pus, if that’s more your style. The goal is to get the topic of sex out in the open. Once it’s on your mind and on your partner’s mind, the next step is actually having sex.
Have your partner watch you masturbate
The creme de la creme, the mac daddy of hands free turn ons: Have your partner watch you touch yourself and make it abundantly clear they are not allowed to touch you.
Sit your partner across the room, on a chair, where he or she has a perfect view of you on the bed. Take that new toy you just bought and put on a little show for your partner. Try masturbating on all fours, lying down, and standing. Make it a visual experience to remember. It’s like creating your own live porn show.