Everyone dreams of having the perfect wedding. Whether you've have been thinking about it since you were little or since the moment you looked down and your partner was on one knee, you daydream about it, think about it, plan it—a perfect scenario of the most perfect wedding that planet earth has ever seen. You invest much time, energy, and thought into the perfection of every detail, but at what cost? Do you end up sacrificing enjoying the process and the wedding when the day actually comes?
I've thought about this idea quite a bit: the perfectionist mentality that many of us have in one form or another. However, it didn't really hit me until I was watching Girlfriends Guide to Divorce (I know, but it's SO GOOD)—after the main character, Abby, signs her divorce papers, her friends throw her a lavish LA divorce party where they put her wedding dress on a mannequin and she shoots her wedding dress with a paintball gun. The pristine white becomes a Jackson Pollock of hot pink and lime green and vibrant blue. She has one more round of paint and her friends are cheering her on, but Abby just stops and looks at the wedding dress—everyone thinks she's about to have a nervous breakdown until she says, "It's perfect."
My point is: no one can live up to the pristine white—because love is messy and chaotic, but that's where the beauty comes from. Instead of getting wrapped up in creating the PERFECT wedding, maybe focus more on how to enjoy the experience and yourself more; focus more on using this day to get closer with your loved ones and families instead of letting ideas of perfection get in the way; focus on having the best time you possibly can planning one of the most beautiful days of your life. You'll want to remember the joy and laughs and chaos instead of the stress and expectations of perfection. Trust me, the former is way, way more memorable.
Desiree Pais is a meditation and Kundalini guide and a natural beauty alchemist. She is currently pursuing a master's degree at Pacific College of Oriental Medicine, and she studied Daoist healing with Grandmaster Sung Baek. She teaches Kundalini yoga and meditation classes and workshops around New York City. She aims to make these ancient practices available to anyone who is interested in using this profound practice to create the life they want to experience.