In the How to Stay Present marriage advice series, the Kundalini guide behind Benshen, Desiree Pais, gives you the tools you need to stay focused and calm before, during, and after you tie the knot.
Despite what you might think, your hormones are not—I repeat—not your worst enemy. Actually, when they’re in balance, they can be the equivalent to your maid-of-honor: your most trusted friend. Hormones are the chemical messengers of your body that make sure everything is running smoothly, from your menstrual cycles to your digestion to keeping you looking young, radiant, and vibrant. However, if your hormones become out of balance, that’s when things begin to go haywire. Mood swings, poor digestion, bloating, fatigue, dry skin, blemishes, and all that fun stuff will creep up faster than you can say, “I do.”
Sadly, I’ve seen over and over the toll the stress of planning a wedding takes on a woman’s hormones; stress and not eating properly are the main culprits. But don’t let this become another thing to worry about—here are a few easy tips to help you keep your hormones (and yourself) happy.
- First and foremost, it’s so important to make sure you don’t starve yourself. Skipping meals in the name of Vera Wang will send you straight to hormonal chaos—fast. The first step to keeping your hormones balanced is keeping your blood sugar stable, as Alissa Vitti encourages again and again in her INCREDIBLE book, Woman Code. Instead, make sure to eat nutrient-dense meals with small protein snacks every three hours to keep your blood sugar stable and hormones balanced.
- Adding healthy fats into your diet is one of the best ways nutritionally to make sure your hormones stay happy. The body needs these healthy fats—they are the building blocks to hormones themselves. Eating a low-fat diet is one of the worst things you can do for your hormones. Ghee, avocado, and olive oil are some of my favorites that have numerous health benefits on top of helping to keep your hormones balanced.
- Decreasing your stress is essential to keeping your hormones balanced. I know, I know, your mother is driving you insane and the florist has not answered your email in 24 hours, so, of course, there are some things that are just out of your hands. But what is in your hands is meditation and you only need three minutes a day to start feeling better; try the left-nostril breathing I taught you a few weeks ago to help melt the stress away.
Desiree Pais is a meditation and Kundalini guide, and a natural beauty alchemist. She is currently pursuing a master's degree at Pacific College of Oriental Medicine and studied Daoist Healing with Grandmaster Sung Baek. She teaches Kundalini yoga and meditation classes and workshops around New York City. She aims to make these ancient practices available to anyone who is interested in using this profound practice to create the life they want to experience.