The week before your wedding — a time with seemingly never-ending last-minute to-do lists and sky-high, roller coaster emotions — may leave little time to relax, but kicking back and taking a deep breath isn't impossible. Here's how you can keep calm, and move on.
Realize worrying gets you nowhere.
"You must believe in your heart that worrying is not going to help anything," says Aviva Samuels, owner of Kiss the Planner in Palm Beach, Florida. "You must be prepared to give up the deep-seeded belief that worrying serves some sort of purpose. You must distinguish between solvable an unsolvable stresses. Take a closer look to see if there is something that you can do to be more prepared, or if it is something that is simply out of your control. Take a look at how likely is it that a problem will occur and if is it truly a realistic concern? If it is solvable, grab your closest allies and start brainstorming. If not, let it go."
Put your faith in your vendors.
If you've prepared your wedding to-do list and checked it twice then "it's time to put your faith into the people you hired to make that plan come to life," says Samuels. "Having said that, however, if double and triple checking is your thing, enlist your trusted peeps to make one last confirmation call to each of your vendors to check in with them. Find out if they have everything they need to make the wedding a success. Although it may not be necessary, if that's what it takes to put you at ease, I say go for it."
Be specific about your needs.
"If you want help packing, tweaking your seating chart, running errands or packing your honeymoon suitcase, don't just assume that your loved ones already know that," says Samuels. "Ask for what you need and accept the help with open arms. Delegating is the key to success and if you give your loved ones a heads up in advance, it may become your secret weapon when it comes to staying calm in those final days."
Learn to walk away.
You won't be the only one with sky-rocketing stress levels the week of your wedding. So if someone you love does something to get under your skin, "calmly say, 'thank you for noticing,' and then walk away," Samuels suggests. "Keep a neutral body and facial expression or squeeze out a smile if you are able. If you indulge yourself in getting upset, then you are the one that suffers the consequence".