Whether it's your dream wedding venue being booked two years in advance, your string quartet canceling, or a flaky attendant backing out at the last minute, things don't always go according to plan when you're planning your big day. (Sadly, Murphy's Law applies to your nuptials, too.) Here's how to deal:
__1. Remember what matters.__You spend hours obsessing over every detail of your wedding, so it's natural to be upset if something goes wrong. But, remember that all of these details pale in comparison to one thing: your love for your soon-to-be husband! Bottom line: love (and a joyful wedding) has nothing to do with perfection. And as long as you both say "I do," at the end of the day your wedding will be a success—no matter what happens or who backs out.
2. Call your mom. When something goes wrong, and you're feeling a surge of stress (and even, dare we say, panic), pick up the phone and call one person: your mom. Past happiness research suggests that women who are close to their moms and reach out to them in times of sadness and disappointment recover more quickly than those who don't have their mom on speed-dial. (Second best, in our opinion: A sunny, sympathetic girlfriend.)
__3. Fall in love with Plan B.__So, all your life you dreamed of having peonies—your favorite flower!—in your bouquet. And now the florist tells you that there's a worldwide shortage of the blooms and she can't get them in time for your wedding. Instead of fretting, embrace the joy of switching things up. Research other ideas, and be open to alternatives. By adopting an optimistic attitude, you might learn to love Plan B even more than you thought you'd love Plan A.