Whether you wait until marriage to move in with your significant other or take the plunge a bit early, one of the most important rooms to get right in your shared space is the bedroom. From the lighting to the layout, from the pillows to the paint color, the specifics really matter when you're trying to create a shared sanctuary. So where to start?
The centerpiece of the room is your bed, so you want to make sure it's a place for rest and respite...and quality time together of course. "If the mattress is old [or] one of you is bringing it in from a previous relationship, get rid of it!" advises Feng Shui expert Laura Benko. For a fresh, streamlined design, check out some of the new direct-to-consumer options like Leesa — a hybrid mattress that combines contouring memory foam for comfort and cooling, hypo-allergenic foam for bounce.
For an added dose of romance, Talie Jane of Talie Jane Interiors recommends a canopy or four-poster bed where couples can drape fabric and create a "secluded, cocoon-like feel." For touchable textures, she likes silk or sateen sheets with a high thread count (400 or more) and incorporating a faux fur throw blanket. Toss in some Euro pillows — two for a queen, three for a king — and the bed will look more put together, according to Victoria Solomon of Victoria Elizabeth Design.
As important as the bed itself is how you arrange it in the room. It should be in the "commanding position," says Benko, which means you should see the entrance to the room from the bed without being in direct alignment with it. "Never have your back to the door. This creates a subconscious feeling of vulnerability," she adds.
Newly married couples should remove technology from their sacred space, Benko says. If you're not ready to trade your alarm clock for a wind-up version or your cell phone for analog, move these devices across the room and as far away from the bed as possible.
Some couples love completely white bedrooms, while others prefer neutrals or even black, Solomon says. "Find what colors soothe you," she advises. A happy medium that husband and wife can usually agree upon are blue or gray. But if you're having trouble meeting in the middle, you can use two or three different hues if you tie them together.
A big part of creating a personal and inviting space is adding some fun extras like a chaise lounge, an oversized or full-length mirror, a chandelier above the bed, or an electric fireplace. Jane suggests considering wall-mounted, standalone units, or traditional designs with mantels, all which can instantly set the mood while emitting some nice heat.
Most couples will also appreciate a pretty scent in the bedroom. Whether it's candles or diffusers or fresh flowers.
Extras aside, it's a good idea to put things away and keep clutter to an absolute minimum. After all, your bedroom should be a calm and serene escape from the rest of the world!