You love each of your bridesmaids, but that doesn't automatically make these ladies BFFs with one another. "It's really important for bridal party members to get along because they will be spending so much time with each other in the months leading up to the wedding," says Kelly Heyn, owner of SociaLife Event Planning in New Jersey.
Not only will your 'maids work alongside one another to plan your bridal shower and bachelorette parties, they'll be side-by-side assisting you with wedding day responsibilities, Heyn points out. "If they do not know each other or get along very well," she says, "it could cause problems for the rest of the wedding participants and add unwelcomed stress for the bride."
But you can help your bridal party members bond big time with these expert ideas.
1. Host an activity outside of the wedding.
Your bridal party may not be able to bond under the pressure of planning your bridal shower. "Introducing the bridal party in an activity outside of the wedding will help them bond in a more natural and comfortable setting," says Heyn. "Consider hosting a brunch or an old-fashioned sleepover to have the girls get to know each other and become friends on their own, without it feeling forced because of the wedding."
2. Enlist the bridal party's help with a DIY project.
"Every wedding has a tedious project that a bride will absolutely need some extra hands," says Heyn. And time spent working through those tedious tasks — think: stuffing wedding invitations, packing favor bags, and creating personal décor — is "a great time to enlist your bridal party for help," Heyn says. "Girls bond the most when they sit down and talk to each other. Add a glass of wine and some puff paint and the conversations will start to flow."
3. Get social on social media.
If your 'maids live in separate states, in-person interactions will be limited. In this case, "the best way to keep everyone in the loop is to incorporate social media into your wedding planning," says Heyn. "Set up a private Facebook page and invite each of the members to join so they can share wedding ideas. Ask your maid of honor to keep everyone included by requesting feedback and sharing responsibilities."