When you’ve got love (and marriage!) on the brain, it can be hard to see a friend going through a breakup of any kind. And if you’re the bride and she’s one of your bridesmaids, it’s extra tough. If you’re planning your wedding and you've got a bridesmaid who’s heartbroken right now, our experts have a few tips for how you can help her to set aside the sorrow—and celebrate.
Seeing as you’re deep in love and your bridesmaid is recovering from a breakup—the opposite end of the emotional spectrum—it’s extra important to be tactful. She’s probably still so excited about your wedding, but now isn’t the time to talk about that sweet thing your fiancé did the other day. Just as you would at any other time, be supportive. Give her a shoulder to cry on, and remind her that the right person for her is out there somewhere, and it’s all part of the journey. Be sensitive to any topics that could be upsetting.
Don’t, however, try to keep her out of wedding planning just because you don’t want to make her feel worse. Ask her how she’s doing, and if she’s up to being a part of whatever project you’ve got going on. If she isn’t ready, she’ll appreciate your consideration, but there’s a chance she’ll be happy to have a distraction. In that case, keep the conversation focused on the logistics you might need help with, as well as the awesome party you’re planning. A little fun (and something positive to think about) can do wonders for a broken heart.
When it comes to your wedding day, hopefully her heartbreak won’t have too much of an impact. She might be a little more weepy at the altar, but that could also be because she’s so happy to see you say “I do!” And while it’s tempting to try to set her up with that cute groomsman as a rebound, don’t do it! Unless she tells you explicitly that she’s looking for someone new, there’s a good chance that plan will backfire. So seat her next to one of your mutual friends, drag her onto the dance floor with you, and make sure she knows she’s loved.