A massage is an excellent way to get in the mood for getting busy. Many of our muscles, nerve endings, and chakras are engaged when we receive a massage. Let's be real, if they weren't so hard on the wallet, you'd want one everyday. When it comes to how to massage a man, there are plenty of ways you can really get in there and remove those knots (there is definitely a hidden meaning in there somewhere). If you're looking to unlock your partner's inner sex demon and get them in a headspace for sex, you might want to learn how to give a fabulous massage.
Who wouldn't be turned on by their partner rubbing them down with eucalyptus oil? That's some erotic stuff right there. There re lots of reasons to want some massage techniques for him. We support you, girl.
Maybe you want to spice things up with your boo, or simply figure out how to soothe their aching muscles after a long day at the office, either way, giving a great man massage is a sensual art you can master. Here is how to give a massage to your boyfriend, partner, or husband.
1. Buy the right stuff
When it comes to giving a good massage, you want to have the right tools. It's like role play, only you're a massage therapist in this game.
You choose what works for you. Keep in mind whether you or your partner has any allergies or sensitive skin. We love a light eucalyptus or lavender oil. The closer you can get to organic and pure oils, the better. You can also try an unscented massage oil such as pure vitamin E oil.
Don't overdo it with the oil when you're massaging. The secret to a great massage is lubrication, so keep the bottle handy if you need to reapply. Warm it up in your hands first, then apply. If you want to set an ambiance, get some candles and put on a relaxing Spotify playlist. After a long day, the right setting can do wonders.
2. Go slowly
You don't want to rush through the massage. This can both tire you out and become stressful. Take your time. Don't throw your whole body into it right away or you will wind up burnt out within a few minutes.
Have your partner lie on his or her stomach first and use light, even pressure. You can always up the pressure as you go (just ask them how it's feeling first), but a great massage is a little like a great meal: Let it unfold over a prolonged period of time and try to enjoy each bite.
3. Focus on the shoulders
Most people carry their tension in the shoulders, so you have total permission to start here and stay for a while. Think of when you're stretching, the shoulders are always a hard group of muscles to relax.
Stay close to the muscles. Be sure to avoid applying too much pressure on bones and joints (especially in the shoulders and spine areas). Massage therapists say these are no-no zones that might actually cause join damage. We definitely don't want that!
4. Get creative
If your fingers are tiring out, use the lower portion of your hands (your palms, and the meaty area beneath your thumbs). You can also try this tried-and-true massage therapist trick: Get your arms in on the mix. The inside of your forearms make great massage tools. You can lean into them for extra push. This is a great way to unlock tension.
If you have a a trusted, electric home massager, feel free to bring that in on the massage. It will help take some of the pressure off of you, but won't cut your partner's enjoyment short. It's a brilliant way to half-ass without anyone being the wiser.
5. Give attention to the neck area
While your partner is on his or her back, focus on the neck with your thumb and forefingers, running them up and down. Ask them if something you're doing feels particularly good. Consistency can help alleviate stored tension in the muscles. You just want to check in an make sure everything feels comfortable.
Remember, no direct contact with the spine. Bones are no-go. Since you're not a professional, you want to be extra careful.
6. The face: An erotic playground
The face might not seem like the go to place when giving a man a massage, but it is actually very sensual. Gently press your fingers into your partner's temples. Ask if the pressure is good. Once you let go after about 15 seconds, they will notice much of the tension throughout the rest of the body release.
Gently massage the face by using your finger tips to light draw tension away from the center of the face (near the nose) to the hairline. Do be afraid to come in for a deep, sexy kiss. If you're going to take a break from massaging, why not make out? This is a sensual experience.
7. The ears
Here is a little tip that will really make a big difference: Give the ears some serious attention. This is an excellent time for you to take a break. Massaging a full grown dude is not easy. They likely want a lot more physical pressure than you're used to giving. Wherever you can take a little respite, do so.
The ears are full of erotic nerve endings. Gently massage them with fingers. Use circular motions. Go ahead and try it on yourself first, you'll see what we mean.
8. The lower back BAE
The lower back is a source of much of our general back pain. If you've ever worked in or currently work in an office, you know exactly what we mean. The pressure of our top halves always seems to push down on the lower back.
Be sure you really get in there. Use hands, arms, elbows—anything you can to really access his muscles deeply. A special area of interest: The sacrum. It is where a lot of erotic energy is stored (well, according to gurus anyway). Your partner will be feeling so amazing after this massage, we're quite sure you'll get laid.
It's thought that the area surrounding the bladder is an ancient hub of erotic energy, just like the sacrum. When you're massaging his torso (always be gentle with the stomach), push lightly where his bladder is on the lower abdomen.
We cannot stress being gentle enough. If you push too hard, he'll have to pee. Nothing interrupts a sexy massage like having to hit the bathroom.
See more: 7 Ideas for Incredible Foreplay
10. Don't forget the hands and feet
Your partner may not no to ask, but believe us, they will love a massage on their hands and feet. It's a great way to round out a complete body massage.
To start, weave your hand in their, and use your thumbs to knead the back of his or her palm. Then, stroke each finger with enough pressure so the muscles in his or her fingers get plenty of love. You can show their arms some love as well. Finish with their feet.
You won't need to spend more than a few minutes on each hand and foot, but it will make a huge difference in their relaxation.
Now, if you want to move in with some kisses on the back of the neck and shoulders to get this party going, by all means...