Are you on a magical quest to discover your G-spot? Are you wondering what in the heck your G-spot even is? You are so not alone. The G-spot is super complex and confusing; the definition what it is and what it does seems to change with the wind. Female anatomy never gets enough attention and no one seems to know what is what.
Luckily, we do!
There is a ton of information on the G-spot on the internet. And much of that information is incorrect. We have to lay the myths to rest and map out exactly what the G-spot is, what it does, and how to find it.
Here is what you need to know about finding your G-spot.
What is the G-spot?
The G-spot is located about two to three inches inside the vaginal opening, behind the pubic bone. You already know what the clitoris is (if you don’t, click here). The clitoris is not just the small bud you see at the top of the vulva. It extends inside the body up to five whole inches. Mind blown? We know.
The G-spot is not its own, separate thing. It is a part of the clitoris! The G-spot is the back end of the clitoris, the apex located internally. What a thing, right?
There is more! The G-spot is actually not a spot at all, but an area. It is the sensitive tissue that surrounds the urethral sponge. How big your G-spot area is will depend on your body. Explore your body. Figure out what feels good to you. You might find that a circular motion is pleasurable. You could discover that pinpointed, targeted or thudded pressure in one spot works for you.
You may find that you feel nothing at all, or that the stimulation is not pleasurable for you. Whatever your preference, you are completely normal.
How to find it
To locate the G-spot area, insert two fingers into the vaginal opening, fingers hooked down. Your hand will look much like a raptor claw. Reach in and curve your fingers up, behind the pubic bone. Make a rocking horse motion. It should feel like a walnut textured patch.
Touch around the area and see what it feels like for you. Feel around in there. It may be a strange sensation at first. Give yourself time to practice and get used to what you’re feeling. You can utilize a vibrating G-spot wand as well. Vibration may feel great.
You can also try a stainless steel, glass, or silicone non-vibrating G-spot wand for easy access and heavier pressure.
The truth about G-spot orgasms
If you’re not having G-spot orgasms, that is totally OK. Not many do! For most women, external stimulation of the clitoral glans (the bud you can see on the outside) is needed for orgasm. Plus, since the G-spot is hooked up at an angle, it’s not particularly likely that a penis can reach it during intercourse. (Some positions are better than others).
Oh, well. Such is life. No one orgasm is better than any other. Don’t listen to anyone who tells you differently.
The G-spot is touted as this big “thing.” Ever since it was discovered (the history is kind of subjective), it has reignited the fervor of the orgasm hierarchy. Vaginal orgasms have always been thought of as the “best” kind of orgasm. This is BS, and we have to stop thinking this way.
If you enjoy internal stimulation of the G-spot, that’s great! If you have vaginal orgasms, that’s awesome. If you don’t, that’s also fabulous. We all need pleasure in different ways. Our bodies are unique. Don’t get down on yourself if the G-spot alone (or internal stimulation of any kind) isn’t working for you.
If you want to have orgasms during intercourse, you can try a few tricks. Check this out. It won’t work for every person’s body.
What does squirting have to do with it?
As we mentioned above, the G-spot is the area that surround the urethral sponge. You may be look at that sentence and think: So, squirting is near where the pee sponge is so, is squirting pee?
No worries on that one. It is kind of confusing. #anatomyproblems amirite?
The liquid some women expel during G-spot orgasm and/or stimulation is not pee. It is a clear, alkaline substance who’s makeup closely resembles male prostate fluid. How can that be?
The Skene’s Glans are next to the urethral sponge and are a part of the G-spot-urethral complex. When stimulated, they expel this fluid. So, no. Squirting is not pee!
That being said, since the G-spot area is near the urethral sponge, there might be some pee involved in G-spot stimulation. It happens. Again, nothing weird about this.
Not all women squirt. While all women have Skene’s Glans, but not all women expel fluid. We’re not quite sure why this is, it just is. Again, bodies are unique and everyone has their own pleasure grid. Do what works for you. As long as you’re enjoying yourself, screw what anyone else thinks.