You and your significant other are simpatico when it comes to wedding planning. Color scheme? Cool blues, of course. Wedding party? The more, the merrier, you say. But a wedding date? He's dying for a summer wedding that sidesteps football season, while you've dreamt of a fall affair since you were a little girl.
"I've found that couples who have difficulty landing on a feasible wedding date usually have two kinds of reasons: the reasonable, and the ridiculous," describes Lynn Easton, owner of Easton Events in New York City. The reasonable camp, she says, includes actual obstacles such as "a graduation date, family event or religious observance that's set in stone," she says, while ridiculous conflicts spring from an objection of sweating through a suit or avoiding a sporting season.
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Figure out where you stand and if you find you're working through real issues, you've got a few options. "Practically speaking, it's often easiest to work backward," says Easton. "Eliminate the no-go dates and start there." Take holidays, family events, or religious observances off the table and see what you're left with. If you still find you can't agree, consider lengthening your engagement to 18 to 24 months, or hosting your wedding on a Friday or Sunday.
Still stuck? "Think out of the box by aiming for a date that has meaning for you — the date of your first kiss, your grandmother's birthday, the date your dog had puppies, who knows!" says Easton. "There are no rules here! If you are happily engaged and planning a wonderful wedding, celebrating a few months later than you initially hoped won't be a big deal in the long run."
While you work your way through a calendar, don't lose perspective or your temper. "There are lots of creative ways to find a date that works," Easton says. "There are many factors at play. A sense of humor helps!"