Let's talk about sex, baby — specifically how to get in the mood to make love more often. It's good for the mind, body, soul and marriage. So drop the excuses and your drawers! Here are 5 easy ways to increase your libido right now.
1. Bust out the erotica
Men and women are both visual creatures, but we're also turned on by words. That's why Fifty Shades of Grey was such a runaway success. To turn up the heat between your own sheets, either watch porn with your partner or read an erotic story, suggests licensed psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman. And don't hold back! "The benefit of sharing is that it gives him a window into your fantasy life." Now, that's hot.
2. Hug him
He's got the magic touch! Seriously though, as nurse and healer Jennifer Schmid explains, physical touch releases the love hormone oxytocin, and the more oxytocin we feel, the more affectionate we want to be with each other. In fact, women are wired to get aroused after starting sexual activity, whereas men need to be turned on first, notes Rodman. "Even if you thought you weren't in the mood, kissing or touching your partner can stir up the desire for sex."
3. Do some yoga
Lots of stress leads to very little sex so try to find natural ways to reduce it, like yoga, meditation or a walk in the park with your dog. "When we're stressed, our body diverts the hormones it would use to make sex hormones (progesterone and testosterone) in order to make stress hormones (cortisol especially) instead," says Schmid.
4. Ditch the sweets
Besides dark chocolate, of course! "Sugar affects our body negatively in so many different ways, but in relation to libido, it can increase our body's stress load and drain it of beneficial nutrients," describes Schmid. In turn, this affects our sex hormones and drive.