How to Beat the Bridesmaid Blues

What to do when being her right-hand woman isn't all that

Updated 09/04/19

Carlie Statsky

Being a bridesmaid can be a lot of fun, but it can also be a lot of work. You might find yourself constantly ditching the regularly scheduled plans you had for your weekend to help the bride with little things, like going from store to store to find the perfect cake topper, or spending hours on a wedding playlist for the DJ. Through it all—the dress shopping, the bachelorette partying, the back and forth email chains between the bridesmaids—you might just start to notice that you feel completely exhausted, overwhelmed, and stressed out.

So how can you put the fun back into being a bridesmaid before the wedding happens so you can stop the eye rolls and the verbal sighs of ughh before it is your turn to walk down the aisle? Here are five ways to help you change your attitude and ditch the bridesmaid blues.

Take a Break

Put your bridesmaid duties on pause for a little bit, especially if you are feeling like you have devoted so much of your free time to helping out for someone else’s wedding. Schedule time to relax, see friends, or do all the errands that you’ve been putting off. Give yourself a weekend or two to just hang out and not have to worry about answering phone calls or text messages that relate to the wedding.

Talk It Out

When you’re feeling annoyed by being a bridesmaid, the best thing you can do is talk about it. If you don’t want to vent to the bride about how you’re not enjoying all of the stuff that goes along with being a member of her bridal party, seek out a bridesmaid or the maid of honor and have a productive conversation with them. Let them know what’s bugging you and come up with solutions. Rather than just bring down others with negativity, ask them to help you find suggestions to make you feel happy and enthusiastic about being a bridesmaid once again.

Find a Way to Save Cash

When you’re starting to see that you’re constantly spending money on being a bridesmaid, start to get creative about how to save cash. Look into what types of wedding gifts you can DIY rather than spend a chunk of cash on. See where you can find your bridesmaid dress for a steep discounted price. Get a group of bridesmaids together and see how you can split accommodations for the wedding weekend to save money.

Press the Mute Button

If the number one thing that’s making you annoyed is how many text messages and emails you’re getting all day every day from the bridal party, put them on mute. You might start to feel like your work day is getting constantly interrupted from all the group conversations and all the back and forth about plans for the pre-wedding events. It’s okay if you don't respond immediately to all of them, especially if they are starting to interfere with your job. Instead, find a few times during the week that you will dedicate to responding and other than that, leave the conversations to those who have the time to answer.

Do Something Extra Nice for Yourself

Take a step back and realize that you’ve been working so hard to be there for the bride and the wedding needs and now it’s time take care of yourself. Treat yourself to a spa day or just a weekend at home binge-watching your favorite TV show. Do something very nice for yourself and it may help you reset your emotions and get you back into a bridesmaid state of mind.

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