Jen Glantz is a "Professional Bridesmaid" and the founder of Bridesmaid for Hire. She's the author of All My Friends Are Engaged and frequently wears old bridesmaid dresses to the grocery store and on first dates. For her Brides.com column, Jen is here to give some expert advice to brides on how they can make sure their bachelorette party is in line with their style — and standards.
Your bachelorette party should truly be a weekend that's filled with endless photographs, life-long inside jokes, and enough shots of tequila that just the smell of that liquid is enough to remind you of your last fling before the ring. But above all of that, your bachelorette party should be what you want it to be, though it's never quite that simple. Even if you say you want something simple and lowkey, you may end up finding that your bridal party is taking you to a nightclub followed by a situation that includes an uninvited guest — a stripper.
So, if you don't want this cringe-worthy moment to happen, how do you make sure it doesn't without stepping on your bridesmaids' toes? Make it very clear, to start. Let them know that you are ready for a fun time, but you would rather them not waste their money on a stripper and that you really don't feel comfortable with the idea of a guy in a thong invading your very personal space.
Sometimes they will listen to this but not believe you or decide to plan this anyway, thinking it's what you really want. That's why it doesn't hurt to have a plan b and to come to the table prepared that their initial response will be one of disbelief.
The other option is to give them a few examples of what you would rather do instead. Try not to plan the bachelorette party for them, but instead, give them hints of what your ideal party would look like. Even if you're unsure of what you'd like to do, offering ideas to your 'maids is better than waiting to see what happens and then being annoyed. Do a little research on bachelorette party alternatives and see which ones fit your style and your standards.