Whether you already live together and don’t need any more sets of towels or pots and pans or you’d much rather go on an incredible honeymoon than get new wine glasses, a traditional registry isn’t the right fit for every couple. And, hey, who wouldn’t love to get a stack of checks (or even dolla bills) as gifts? Of course, asking guests for cash for a wedding gift might rub some family members and friends the wrong way, so we asked our experts to share the best ways to ask for money instead of gifts for your wedding.
While there’s nothing taboo about asking for money instead of sharing your registry details, it does require a little more finesse than putting links on your wedding website. It all starts with spreading the word delicately. Just as you would ask your parents and wedding party to tell your guests which big-box store you’ve registered at, ask them to tell your guests what you’re saving for, whether it’s the trip of a lifetime, a kitchen remodel, or a down payment on a home you can call your own. They can then suggest that your guests make a contribution to your savings fund instead of getting you a new toaster. Cash or a check can feel impersonal, so letting guests know where the money will go helps your guests feel more connected to the two of you and your plans.
For those more tech-savvy guests, turn to a cash registry site! Zola allows you to ask for honeymoon contributions or cash alongside physical gifts, while Honeyfund has fun breakdowns where guests can contribute to upgrading your airfare or paying for an exciting excursion. Or turn to Tendr for a fund that’s just about the money, facilitating the giving of cash gifts without the need to send a check or deliver an envelope of bills at the reception.
Include links to any fund registries on your wedding website, but don’t skip the traditional registry altogether. You’re guaranteed to have a few guests who prefer to give you a physical gift, so make the process easier for them by registering for a selection of items you really want.
Expecting a lot of cash for wedding gifts? Keep an eye on the box for cards and gifts at your reception. Ask your planner or maid of honor to periodically check the box throughout the evening. They can collect the cards you’ve received and put them in a safe place so you don’t have to worry about money wandering off, and your guests can give their gifts with a little peace of mind.